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Before we start
You can get anything in life that you want if you can help enough people get what they want
Objectives
1. People Skills 2. Managing Conflicts and Difficult People 3. Avoiding Stress
Management Skills
1. 7. 2. Wh Job Car Bos at eer s 3. to 6. Tim Attit 5. Man e age? ude Dis 4. Relationship cipli ne
Conflict Mgmt
Communication SF
LINA
Listen with interest and praise
Ask questions
Influence SF
PASSE
Praise and encourage Ask questions allow the person to Save Face use SMART goals Encourage small improvements
Personality SF
S + FH + C
Smile
Firm Handshake
Compliment
Peaceful: Phlegmatic
Popular: Sanguine
Closed
Open
Perfect: Melancholy
Powerful: Choleric
Task
Affiliative (nAff)
Handout 3: Motive Profiles Overview
Achievement (nAch)
Active Listening
1. 2. 3. 4. Attending Paraphrasing Speaking Clarifying 5. 6. 7. 8. Asking Encouraging Reflecting Summarizing
Understanding Conflicts
What is, Sources of,
CONFLICTS
Lack of Cooperation Reduce Energy
Good
1. Clarification
2. Release emotions
3. Release stress 4. Understand each other 5. Build cooperation & trust 6. Develop problem solving 7. Create energy
Bad
Sources of Conflicts
Instrumental
Personal
Interest
Sources of Conflicts
Instrumental
1. Goals 2. Means 3. Procedures 4. Structures
Sources of Conflicts
1. Money 2. Time 3. Staff Space 4. Importance 5. Ownership 6. Competence
Interest
Sources of Conflicts
1. Identity 2. Self-image 3. Loyalty 4. Confidence breach
5. No respect
6. Friendship Betrayal
Personal
Yes? No?
1. Compromise, if possible
2. Win-win, if possible
8. I understand
10. Face
1. 2. 3. 4. 5.
Understand and use People Skills Me Sdn Bhd Rules of Work Bad Bosses Who are you working for?
2. Me Sdn Bhd
Who do you work for?
3. Rules of Work
Rule 38: Dont let it get to you Rule 60: Know when to let go Rule 76: Dont bad mouth your boss Rule 77: Dont bad-mouth your team Rule 78: Accept that some things your bosses tell you to do will be wrong Rule 93: Maintain good friendships and relationships (if possible) Rule 101: Remember that we are all humans
Refer to Handout 7 for detailed explanation
4. Bad Bosses
If none of these strategies work, you have two choices: 1. Choice A - If you have good personal reasons for staying in your job -- you love your work, you're learning a lot, you like the people you're working with -- you can hold your nose and ignore your boss as best you can. 2. Choice B - Or, you can quit: life is too short too deal with this kind of abuse.
Anyone can become angry that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way that is not easy.
Aristotle
Endnote
Thank You.