Art of dealing with

women
Based on Vsudeva, Sankarsana,
Pradyumna, Aniruddha (as per instructed
by HH Bhakti Vidya Purna Maharaja)

Vsudeva/

Sankarsan/
ahankara

Pradyumna/
Cupid for us
Buddhi/senses
= best option

Aniruddha/mind

BG 4.7 = descent

BG 4.8 =
ksetra/facilities

BG 3.24 energiesmake activity workex: parental energy

BG 3.21 Wheres the

enjoyment?

Abhideya/they meet

Sambandha/male

Sambandha/male

Prayojana/female

Everything is
based on
Vsudeva because
activities set the pples

For us,
acquisition of
gross bodies:
elts of the field
(pots, yourself,
instruments)
Elts of
ahankara: maha
bhutas

Attraction
thru the
field/Virat
/Garbho

Result/experience/bliss
gained thru the
interaction of that field.
Vikalpa/sankalpa.
Women have to interact
with the field. They
establish the field:
money, facilities. Topcareer women up to 40,
50 then change the field
(get married). Evoke
masculine from the men

Pure identity

yayeda dhryate
jagat 7.5

Vsudeva/
Pure identity

I am
controller +
enjoyer
Interaction
of the elts
of the field

Polluted
consciousness
I & mine
I am this
My result

Sankarsan/
ahankara

2 of us
Field,
Environ
ment we
be in

Pradyumna/
Cupid for us
Buddhi/senses
= best option
Energy enters
everything. You
act because you
are attracted.
Krsnas energy
flows thru (Virat
energy)
We should be
on the side
watching
Krsnas energy.
Desire to get
something from
that field, solid,
real relship.

Aniruddha/
mind
Try to enjoy
more with the
kid then its
gone. OK as lg
as you let the
energy flow,
not ours in the
1st place. We
are energy too.
Value system.
Whatever you
do, do it fully

In the Virat, male & female energies flow

toward one another. Thats the way set up
by Krsna.

MALE:

Success if:
Sense control
Sensitivity

Male goes for result, work

always within the field:
sambandha
Male acts
If male stops, no binding,
no experience, no
conclusion
Male sets the field
Have to be pro active

FEMALE:

Success if:
Tusti
Chastity

Female goes for

anubhava,
experience/bliss:
prayojana
Female = potters wheel
Preliminary, conclusion is
female then the binding is
there.
How the field is run is
female.

Male &
female meet
on abhideya

Only in vairagya, can

you enjoy, interaction
(abhideya) is in between
sambandha & prayojana
Attachment itself is not
the activity, the activity is
relation with the desired
object

Start off with vairagya

1) Attached to attachment: could convert your
attachment to Krsna though!
2) Detach from attachment: better off

MAIN THING IS TO
CONNECT TO
KRSNA

 The four orders of life as

brahmacr, ghastha,
vnaprastha and sannys
are to be followed by all,
irrespective of the
occupational division. SB
1.15.39

Conjugal rasa: allowing the masculine to

be controlled by the feminine

CONCLUSION IS FEMALE
THEN THE BINDING IS THERE

ACT IS MALE

PRELIMINARY IS FEMALE

For men

For women

Emotions

Intellect

Senses

Emotions
Intellect
Senses

 MALE:
Has to be dealing with
that particular moment of
the lady
Move the women on
their terms, at their
speed, not on the mens
terms
Men should be looking
for relship not justice,
women have to create
arguments so be humble
Men are active.
Men cutoff (termination)
is an ideal
Emotions are sacred for
men, may go out to save
the country, women will
not do that but will go for
safety.

FEMALE:
Female energy always
tries to connect with
the energetic
Women are passive,
active just to get men
really involved
This is another side of a
woman's psychology. Even
though a woman is very
fond of fulfilling her own
plans, when someone
instructs her, especially her
husband, she innocently
follows, and thus she can
be trained for better
purposes. By nature a
woman wants to be a
follower of a man; therefore
if the man is good the
woman can be trained for a
good purpose. SB 6.18.46

Poaam
Protection is so important for women.
Connection between the philosophy & the
culture.
With women, 1st go through tapas (and
others [the regulated householders] sacrifice
the objects of the senses in the fire of the
senses Bg 4.26), maintain, create facilities
when she feels posanam then reciprocation
Protection as well as fulfillment of ones
desires occur as secondary results of
devotional service to Krsna 8.28

Difference between ghastha & vnaprastha

Ghastha:
Applied knowledge but still connected to the senses
Vnaprastha:
Knowledge still connected to the senses but for the purpose of detachment
Yudhisthira was externally a vanaprasthi cause
Draupadi was still around but he was sannyasa
inside.