THE IDEAL

MUSLIMAH
Day 2

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Contents
Ideal
Friend

Ideal
Working
Woman

Ideal Wife

Ideal
Mother

Ideal Muslimah
Friend

Be the seller of
musk

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Abu Hurairah narrated that the Messenger
of Allah (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said:
"A man is upon the religion of his friend, so
let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Jami` at-Tirmidhi 2378, Hasan(Darussalam)

SELLER OF MUSK
Abu Musa reported Allah's Messenger ) )as
saying:
The similitude of good company and that of bad
company is that of the owner of musk and of the one
(iron-smith) blowing bellows, and the owner of musk
would either offer you free of charge or you would buy it
from him or you would,smell its pleasant odour, and so
far as one who blows the. bellows is concerned, he
would either burn your clothes or you shall have to smell
its repugnant smell. [Sahih Muslim 2628]

What is the importance of a mirror?

A Muslimah should be the a good friend to
another. Each one of us function like a
mirror to another
When you are with your friend you show her,
her faults, in the best manner, but when you
are not in front of her, you dont go on
spreading her faults to others! You show her
faults just as they are, not more not less

Story of Umar and his friend who fell into sin.

1. Friendship has no bounds
Part of being a good Muslimah is that we dont
have racism or jealousy in us, we dont look down
upon people nor talk proudly and arrogantly to
people.

Qualities of an Ideal friend

Two Muslimah should not talk in

seclusion, when there are three.
Always look for the better of your sister
Prophet said: None of you truly believes
until he loves for his brother what he loves
from himself.
Express Love and tell your sister about it.
(Please note sisters to sisters only!)

Narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be

pleased with him) that the Messenger of
Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon
him) said: The rights of one Muslim over
another are six. It was said: What are they,
O Messenger of Allaah? He said:
If you meet him, greet him with salaam;
if he invites you, accept the invitation;
if he asks for advice, give him sincere
advice.

 If he sneezes and praises Allaah, say

Yarhamuk Allaah (may Allaah have mercy
on you);
If he falls sick, visit him;
and if he dies, attend his funeral.
Note 6 is not for women

2. Friend in Need is a Friend in

deed
A Muslimah should be concerned about her
friends, she should help those in need, this
is from Islam.
Incident of Prophet and the companion
Suhaib Aroomi

3. Remembrance of Allah
The heart which is devoid of remembrance
of Allah, is the workshop of the Satan. If you
truly connect to Allah through meaningful
Salah, dhikr and ibadah.

4. Reliable and trustworthy

This means that she guards secrets and
does not leak them out.
When she hears a Muslimah is in problem,
she will help and give advise or take her to
others who can help. She does not magnify
the problems to others, bad mouth her
sister.

Tips on choosing Good friends: Qualities of a good friend:

1. Haya:
How would you like a girl to jostle between a
crowd of men and talk casual to the boys
out there? Most probably shell force you out
in the open with her, she will ridicule your
hijab and ask you to become bold

b)

Reliability

Good friends will help when you need them, she

will keep secrets. and she will not lie to you.

c) Talks less:
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him)
reported:
The Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said, "He
who believes in Allah and the Last Day must either
speak good or remain silent. [Muslim].

 The generations after the companions,

were very conscious of how much they
spoke. They would only speak good and
enjoin good on others of else they would
remain silent

d) Reminds you of Allah & Does

deeds which Allah is pleased with.
When you do something wrong she corrects you
politely and she calls you to all the good deeds she
is doing. When you are with her you are actually
increasing in you hasanah(good deeds) and she is
someone you look up to
Movies are the first bad habits a bad friend can get
you in...so watch out!

Danger Zone
Friendship with Non-Muslims.
Friendship with opposite genders.

Activity
Message your best friend, who is a Muslim
and tell her you love her for the sake of
Allah!

The Ideal Working Woman

Have you taken the responsibility
of your flock?

Role of Women in Islam

Women are are given role of
nurturing families and taking
care of household.
Hadeeth every one of you is a
shepard

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Narrated Ibn 'Umar:

That the Prophet said: "Indeed each of you is a
shepherd and all of you will be questioned regarding
your flock. The commander who is in authority over the
Muslims is responsible and he will be questioned
regarding his responsibility. The man is responsible over
the inhabitants of his house and he is the one who will be
questioned about them. The wife is responsible in her
husband's house and she will be questioned about it.
Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1705, Graded Sahih Darusalaam

Have you taken the responsibility of your

flock?
Our bodies have been designed for this
purpose, their mental capacity has been
designed for this purpose. This should be
their focus and this is where they should put
all their effort.
If women take up burden from elsewhere,
which is not their duty, then they will not do
justice to what they are accountable for.

Importance of a womans role

1. Looks after her husbands needs &
Nurtures family
2. Safeguards the family- fortress
against the devil.
3. Raises a pious generation
4. Protects the wealth of her
husband/wali.
5. Advises, consults, teaches and
supports for family and the Ummah.

Checklist for working women

1. Will I be able to avail segregated education in
relatively fitnah free atmosphere?
2. Am I going to get a job in a segregated
atmosphere once I graduate?
3. Will I be able to give 8-10 hours of my day for this
job, later on in life. Without upsetting my duties?
4. Is a female really required in the field I have
chosen?
5. e) Is a female workforce really beneficial in
contributing to this field?

If your answer is yes, then sure go

ahead if it is no then you are not
seeking knowledge which is pleasing
Allah, it is not beneficial

Regulations on going out for

women
"And stay in your houses and do
not display yourselves (AtTabarooj) like that of the times of
ignorance..." [Surah Al-Ahzab
33:33]

Western civilizations instill this idea of

coaxing women to become career
oriented leaving the duties which they
need and the Ummah needs to taking
up jobs which only for higher state of
mind and social status

It is not correct to say that worldly

study per say is not to be done, but
women should choose those field
based on the benefit it has and not on
how society appraises it!

Education
1.
2.
3.
4.

Gynecology
Psychology.
Dentistry
d. Educationist teaching,
admin. Etc.
5. Daeea - the best profession

6. General Practioners- treating

females and children only.
7. Sciences-teaching females
only.

Why take up a professional job?

Oh I have had a degree,
shouldn't it be put to use?

Reasons for working unnecessarily:

1. Pocket Money:
We need some money for the wardrobe
transformation, new make-up kits and not to
mention fine dining, this is the reason many
females step out of the house to work.

Amr b. Auf reported that Allahs Messenger

said: By Allah, it is not the poverty about
which I fear in regard to you but I am afraid
in our case the (the worldly) riches may be
given to you as were given to those who
had gone before you and you begin to
compete with one another for them as they
competed for them, and these may destroy
you as it destroyed them
Al Bukhari

2.I want to use my degree

3. I have financial responsibilities

Consequence of prioritizing career

over home
1. Delay in marriage.
2. Difficulty in getting suitable
match
3. Lack of attention to homely
duties.
4. Family conflicts

5. Difficulty in raising children.

6. Exploitation of women.
7. Lesser time dedicated to
learning and community needs

Balancing the two work and

home
Women should focus on raising children,
working in the home, on making a home not
outside the home from where it destroys the
home. They should see their situation and
work within guidelines of Islam. If their work
outside does not allow them to do their
homely duties well, they quit their work not
their homely duties.

Donts
Take up job full time.
Work in mixed atmospheres.
Work in haram dealings- riba,
haram business, accounting of
riba, fashion designing, selling of
haram goods etc.

 Working without
permission/travelling of
husband/wali.
Spending lavishly.
Working for a higher state of
living.
Forsake homely duties

Dos
Work part-time.
Work from home.
Manage homely duties

Hadeeth of Charity by Women

1. Ibn `Abbas (radiallahu anhum) that the Prophet
(sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: "O women, give
charity, for I have surely seen that you form the
majority of the inhabitants of Hell." They asked,
`Why is this so, O Messenger of Allah?" He said,
"Because you curse too much, and are ungrateful
for good treatment (on the part of your
husbands)."
Fath al-Bari, 3/325, Kitab al-zakat, bab al-zakat 'ala'l-aqarib; Sahih
Muslim, 2/65, Kitab al-iman, bab bayan naqsan al-iman bi naqs al-ta'at.

Hikmah Says
Sajida is Muslim girl hailing from a middle
class family. Her parents spent
extravagantly on her older sisters wedding
and are struggling to make ends meet,
Sajida has decided to earn for them and
make it a condition in marriage that she will
continue to do so after marriage. What
would you advise Sajida?

Activity Time
The UnEducated Muslim Women - Dr. Bilal Philips Ideal working woman.mp4

Quiz Time
Q. Which two wives of the prophet were
working women?
Q. Can a woman dispose off her wealth
without the permission of her husband?
Why why not?
Q. A woman gave Zakah to her husband, he
was poor is it valid?

Legacy of Great Women

a. Khadeeja.
b. . Zainab bint Jahsh the wife of
the Prophet.
c. Aisha the wife of the Prophet.

Ideal Muslim Wife

Completes his deen, the right way the best
way!

Marriage in Islam
Marriage is the way to permissible relationship
as well as to establish companionship between
men and woman.

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And among His Signs is this, that He created for
you wives from among yourselves, that you may
find repose in them, and He has put between you
affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs
for a people who reflect. (Surah 30:21)

Virtue of Being a wife

Wife in Islam is a very respected

relationship, one entitled to love
companionship, trust, respect and not to
mention mutual consultation and
cooperation.
The Prophet said: This world is just
temporary conveniences, and the best
comfort in this world is a righteous women."
(Sahih Muslim 10/56, Kitab al-rida', bab
istihbab nikah al-bikr)

Being Mentally prepared

She has strong faith in Allah that Allah has

ordained for her a lofty position and she should
feel confident and proud in fulfilling this role.
She should gains knowledge about the duties
and obligations of a wife and its importance in
her dunya and akhirah.
She should not demeans herself and think that
her role is subjugating or useless, thereby
leaving out her duties, keeping the ayah in mind.

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And wish not for the things in

which Allh has made some of you
to excel others. For men there is
reward for what they have earned,
(and likewise) for women there is
reward for what they have earned,
and ask Allh of His Bounty.
Surely, Allh is Ever AllKnower of

Women are full-sisters of

men
For Muslim men and women - for believing men
and women, for devout men and women, for true
men and women, for men and women who are
constant and patient, for men and women who
humble themselves, for men and women who give
in charity, for men and women who fast [and deny
themselves], for men and women who guard their
chastity, and for men and women who engage
much in Allah's praise - for them has Allah
prepared forgiveness and great reward.) (Qur'an
33:35)

Obligations of a
Muslimah
1. Obedience based on devoutness
She is devoutly obedient to him, in
everything he tells her which does not
contest with the command of Allah and
His messenger.

Obligations of a
Muslimah





Therefore the righteous women are
devoutly obedient (to Allh and to their
husbands), and guard in the husband's
absence what Allh orders them to
guard (e.g. their chastity, their
husband's property) (Surah Noor 4:34)

Does not subject herself to anything

against her husbands wishes
She does not talk, go out or subject herself to
anything which her husband disapproves of. She is
protective of his jealousy or gheerah towards her,
and honors it in words, behavior and actions, in his
presence of absence.
The Prophet (PBUH) said:
"If a woman prays her five daily prayers, fasts
her month (of Ramadan), obeys her husband
and guards her chastity, then it will be said to
her: `Enter Paradise by whichever of its gates
you wish.' (Ahmed, Tabarani, Authentic)

The Prophet (PBUH) said:

"It is not permitted for a woman who believes in
Allah (SWT) to allow anyone into her husband's
house whom he dislikes; or to go out when he does
not want her to; or to obey anyone else against
him; or to forsake his bed; or to hit him. If he is
wrong, then let her come to him until he is pleased
with her, and if he accepts her then all is well,
Allah (SWT) will accept her deeds and make her
position stronger, and there will be no sin on her. If
he does not accept her, then at least she will have
done her best and excused herself in the sight of
Allah (SWT)
[Reported by al-Hakim, 2/190, Kitab al-nikah; he said its isnad is sahih.]

Example of Fatima & Her

married
life
Fatimah al-Zahra', the daughter of Muhammad (PBUH) and the wife
of `Ali ibn Abi Talib (RAA). She used to complain of the pain in her
hands caused by grinding grain with the hand-mill. Her husband `Ali
ibn Abi Talib said to her one day, "Your father has brought some
female slaves, so go and ask him for one of them to come and serve
you." She went to her father, but she felt too shy to ask him for what
she wanted. `Ali went and asked him to provide a servant for his
beloved daughter, but the Prophet (PBUH) could not respond to those
who most dear to him whilst ignoring the needs of the poor among
the Muslims, so he came to his daughter and her husband and said:
"Shall I not teach you something that is better than that for which
you asked me? When you go to bed at night, say `Subhan Allah'
thirty-three times, `Al-hamdu lillah' thirty-three times, and `Allahu
akbar' thirty-four times. This is better for you than a servant."

c. Respects and Honors

him
She respects his personality,
behavior,
personal habits and
choices, as she chose him and she
does not belittle him in anyway.
Story of Ibrahim and his daughter-inlaw.

Prophet said, "A woman should not fast

if her husband is present, except with
his permission. She should not allow
anyone to enter his house when he is
present without his permission.
Whatever she spends of his wealth
without him having told her to do so,
half of the reward for it will be given to
him." [Sahih Muslim]

"If a man calls his wife, then let her come,

even if she is busy at the oven A hasan sahih
hadith narrated by Tirmidhi, 2/314, abwab alrida', 10, and by Ibn Hibban, Sahih, 9,473,
kitab al-nikah.
Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (PBUH) said :
"By the One in Whose hand is my soul, there is
no man who calls his wife to his bed, and she
refuses him, but the One Who is in heaven will
be angry with her, until the husband is
pleased with her once more." (Sahih Muslim)

d. Safeguards his wealth

The Prophet (PBUH) in the hadith:

"It is not permitted for a woman to
fast when her husband is present,
except with his permission; or to
allow anyone into his house except
with his permission; or to spend any
of his earnings unless he has told
her to do so, otherwise half of the
reward will be given to him.
Fath al-Bari, 9/295, Kitab al-nikah, bab la ta'dhan al-mar'ah fi
bayt zawjiha li ahad illa bi idhnihi

e. Gratefulness
Ibn `Abbas (RAA) that the Prophet (PBUH) said:
"O women, give charity, for I have surely seen
that you form the majority of the inhabitants of
Hell." They asked, `Why is this so, O Messenger of
Allah?" He said, "Because you curse too much,
and are ungrateful for good treatment (on the
part of your husbands)."Another narration says"
because they are ungrateful for good and kind
treatment. Even if you treated one of them (these
ungrateful women) well for an entire lifetime,
then she saw one fault in you, she would say, `I
have never seen anything good from you.Fath alBari, 1/83, Kitab al-iman, bab kufran al-'ashir

Qualities of an Ideal
1. Willingness to obey
Wife

She should obey him and balance between being a

companion and still acknowledging and respecting
his authority over her. Let your husband be the
akhirah and not the world
2.Modesty
She should be shy of doing the slightest things which
will dishonour the gheerah(possessive jealousy) of
her husband. She should walk, behave and think
modestly and lower her gaze, from inciting sights,
refrain from situations which can arouse doubts

Incident of Asma bin Abee bakr and her hard

work at the garden

Al-Zubayr married me, and he had no wealth, no slaves,

nothing except his horse. I used to feed his horse, looking
after it and exercising it. I crushed date-stones to feed his
camel. I used to bring water and repair the bucket, and I
used to make bread but I could not bake it, so some of my
Ansari neighbours, who were kind women, used to bake it for
me. I used to carry the dates from the garden that the
Prophet (PBUH) had given to al-Zubayr on my head, and this
garden was two-thirds of a farsakh away. One day I was
coming back with the dates on my head. I met the Messenger
of Allah, who had a group of his Companions with him. He
called me, then told his camel to sit down so that I could ride
behind him. I told (al-Zubayr), `I felt shy, because I know that
you are a jealous man.' He said, `It is worse for me to see you
carrying the dates on your head than to see you riding
behind him.' [Sahih Bukhari and Muslim]

3. Clean, Presentable and

Beautified
She should be appealing to her husband, adorn herself for
him and also make herself available for him at all times.
Our Prophet (peace be upon him) said, The best of
women is that she please him when he looks at her,
obeys him when he orders her and does not subject
her person or money to what he dislikes. ( Ahmed,
An Nisaaee, Saheeh Al jami)
She should use perfumes and permissible make-up, in
legitimate ways so that she welcomes him and makes him
feel special when he enters upon her from hard days work.

4. TLC factor at work againtender love and care;

Prophet peace be upon him said, Shall I
not tell you about your wives in Paradise?"
We said, "Of course, O Messenger of Allah."
He said, "They are fertile and loving. If she
becomes angry or is mistreated, or her
husband becomes angry, she says, `My
hand is in your hand; I shall never sleep
until you are pleased with me.
(Reported by al-Tabarani. Its narrators are those whose reports
are accepted as sahih. See Majma' al-Zawa'id, 4/312.)

5. Fulfils his desires

She realizes the challenges he may
face as a working man and the fitna
around him. So she does her best to
fulfil his desires, which are legitimate

6. Loyal and Committed

An ideal wife does not leave her husband for
his mistakes or shortcomings. She does not
change her behavior attitudes, thinking and
trust, if she sees some bad habits in him.
She is committed in all circumstances,
whether he is rich or poor, healthy or sick,
strong or weak- she stands by him advises
him lovingly and patiently and wisely warns
him against sin.

7. Open and Honest

An ideal wife is honest about herself

and is open in her relationship with
her husband. She does not hide
things, keeping him guessing or
misunderstanding her.

8. Communicative
She uses the best words to connect with him and
his family. An ideal wife does not even come near
to foul language, raising her voice, taunting or bad
mouthing anyone, especially her husband.
She should try to understand situations and his
capacity and not ask for him, or demand from him
that which is beyond his scope.
She make him feel wanted by her and valued. If
she wants something from him she asks in a polite
manner, may discuss without bossing around and
should be patient with him in things she wants.

9. Maturity
She should not obey her husband over the
disobedience to Allah.
She should not leave her obligations
because of her husband enjoining her to.
The authority of obedience to him was given
by Allah, How then can we disobey Allah just
to avoid disputes and run the family?
Example of Wife of Pharoah

Legacy of Great Women

1. Incident of Fatima and Ali while Abu bakr visits themdevoutness in obedience
2. Incident of Naila the wife of Uthman- defence of honour,
sacrifice.
3. Incident of Zainab bint Muhammed- loyalty and
commitment.
4. Incident of Aisha bin Abu Bakr on ifk- honesty and
truthfulness.
5. Incident of Khadeeja upon 1st revelation-steadfastness,
companionship, support, consultative, sacrifice and trust.

Legacy of Great Women

6. Incident of wife of Pharoah when she found
baby Moosa & later accepted Islam- sacrifice,
justice(standing up for truth),gentleness.
7. Incident of wife of Moosa- Modesty, Maturity.
8. Incident of Hajar with Ismail- devout obedience,
loyalty and tawwakkul.

Activity Time
Hikmah Says
A wife has three kids, and she has
the knowledge to do dawah, her
husband orders her to go out and
convey the message of Allah,
conduct classes and teach. However
she has homely duties with kids as
well. What do you think Islamically
is the best thing she should do?

Q. A woman gave some of her

husbands money in charity, without
his knowledge, will she be rewarded
for it?

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Re-Connecting hearts
For all those wonderful wives out there,
write atleast three best qualities which you
find in your husband and or he has done for
you and send him a hearty thanks message
for it
Share your experience

THE IDEAL MOTHER

Nurture the little ones, to whom
your feet are Jannah

Obligations of Mothers
1. Giving the child right to live
It is forbidden for one to kill his child, either
after birth or before as in abortion.
It is forbidden to stop child birth.

Obligations of Mothers
2. Feeding & looking after well being.
It is an obligation for mothers to nurse their
child for two years(scholars dispute) and
bring them up well.
She should feed them, and take care of
them, protect them from harm and see to
their welfare.
Prevent the child for crying- see to his
food ,clothing, cleanliness and sleep for
good health.

Obligations of Mothers
3. Protect them from harm
A true Muslimah will rare her kids well,
watch out for the harm to her kids both in
this world and here-after.
Recite ruqyah for them from Sunnah and
prevent them from going into places of
shirk, haram and doing things.
Do not expose them to amulets, charms and
spells for protection- this is shirk and only
destroys the child.

Dua for protection of children

Ibn abbas related that the Messenger

of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah
be upon him) used to commend AlHasan and Al-Husayn to Allahs
protection, saying:
I commend you to the protection of
Allahs perfect words from every
devil, vermin, and every evil eye.

Keeping them indoors

When the wings of the night spread or
when evening comes keep your children in,
for the devils come out at that time. Then
when part of the night has passed, let them
go. And close the doors and mention the
name of Allaah, for the shaytaan does not
open a closed door. And tie up your
waterskins and mention the name of Allaah,
and cover your vessels and mention the
name of Allaah, even if you only put
something over them, and extinguish your
lamps. al-Bukhaari (3280) and Muslim (2012)

3. Being just with them

A true Muslimah will treat all her children whether
male of female, older or younger, beautiful or ugly,
smart or not, equally while taking care of them.
She educates them equally and warns them of evil
equally without any distinction.
Allah rebuke the parent who frowns/buries when a
girl is born.


And when the female (infant) buried alive (as the
pagan Arabs used to do) is questioned. Surah
Takwir 81:8)

Did you give your other children

something similar?
Al-Nu`mn b. Bashr once addressed the people from the
pulpit and told them about what took place between the
Prophet and his father, saying:
My father gave him a gift. Then my mother, `Amrah bint
Rawhah, said: I will not be satisfied until Allahs
Messenger (peace be upon it) is a witness to it.
So my father went to Allahs Messenger and said: I gave a
gift to my son from `Amrah bint Rawhah, and she told me
to have you be a witness to it, O Messenger of Allah.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) asked: Did you give your
other children something similar? He replied that he had
not. So the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: Fear Allah,
and be just between your children.
[Sahh al-Bukhr (2587) and Sahh Muslim (1623)]

 Being partial, causes children to dispute

and brings hatred in them.
You never know which child may grow up
and become a more righteous one and a
source of ongoing charity for you.
Prophet said: Fear Allah and treat your
children [small or grown] fairly (with equal
justice). (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

7 Habits of Successfully
Raising Children
1. Choosing the right spouse
Choose someone whom you like your child
to become. Remember you are also
choosing a father for your child, not just a
spouse.
Marry those who see to protect their
families them against evil, keeping them in
good atmospheres away from haram-Music,
TV, obscene games, immoral social circles.

2. Reciting dua at every time of intimacy

Seek protection from Satan, and recite the

dua for intercourse and remind your
husband too. Muslimah should seek to ward
off Satan in every step, and learn the ways
ho

3. Performing the Aqeeqah of the child

The Sunnah of sacrificing an animal at the
time of birth of child.
Prophet said, Every child should be
mortgaged by its aqeeqah. It should be
slaughtered for him or her on the 7th day,
childs hair shaved and he should be
named.[Nisaee, Abu Dawood, Graded Sahih
by Albani irwa al ghaleel]

4. Create an Islamic
Atmosphere
The home should be free from fitna like TV,
Music,pictures, and bells and elements of
shirk
Bring in Islamic books, games and lectures
for children's study with.
Give them attention and a pleasant
atmosphere to be content with.
Be kind, loving and caring, avoid harsh
behavior.
A true Muslimah mother will be the best
teacher, and the best companion.

5. Teach the religion early

A child was brought to Imam Shafie and
asked Is this a good age to start teaching
the child religion? to which he replied,
this is too late,
Start early as early as two-3 children can
be taught about Allah, belief and from 4
about character and manners.
Teaching them early, prevent the ill
affects of bad atmosphere to have much
influence on them.

Teach them the deen start from aqeedah

Amr ibn Shuayb narrated from his father
from his grandfather that Allahs Messenger
(peace be upon him) said, Command your
children to pray at the age of seven and
spank them for it at the age of ten, and
separate them in their beds. 112 Sunan
Abu Dawud, vol. , p. , no. , Kitaab: Kitaab as
Salaat; Baab: Mataa yumar al ghulaam bis
salaat.

6. Teach them by Example

Children learn by seeing and modelling
behavior more than by obeying instructions.
You cant teach them kindness, when you
are rude, truthfulness when you lie, respect
when you are disrespectful, good speech
when you have bad tongue.
Do not expose them to fights, rude
behaviors and bad language.
Do not fight with your husband in front of
them, and do not backbite about him.

 Narrated Umm Khalid: I (the daughter of

Khalid ibn Said) went to Allahs Messenger
with my father and I was wearing a yellow
shirt. Allahs Messenger said, Sanah,
Sanah! (`Abdullah, the narrator, said that
sanah meant good in the Ethiopian
language). I then started playing with the
seal of prophethood (between the
Prophets shoulders) and my father
rebuked me harshly for that. Allahs
Messenger said, Leave her. The Prophet,
then, invoked Allah to grant her a long life
thrice. (Al-Bukhari)

 Allahs Messenger kissed Al-Hasan ibn `Ali

while Al-Aqra` ibn Habis At-Tamim was
sitting with him . Al-Aqra` said, I have ten
children and have never kissed one of
them. The Prophet cast a look at him and
said, Whoever is not merciful to others
will not be treated mercifully. (Al-Bukhari)
Incident of the Quraish throwing the gut
of camel on the prophets back and his
reaction to it, when fatima was there.

7. Marry them to righteous

spouses
Aboo Hurayrah quoted Allahs Messenger as
saying, If someone proposes marriage for
your daughter and you are pleased with his
religious practice and his character, marry
him to her. If you dont do so, there will be
great corruption and trials in the land. (Sunan
at-Tirmithee, Kitaab: Nikaah; Baab: Maa jaaa ithaa jaaa
ahadakum man tardawna CD 1004)

 Do not delay the marriage of your children

in expectation of wealth or other such
worldly demands.
Facilitate marriage for them and make it
easy for them.
Early marriage prevents them from
sinning- masturbation ,fornication and
keeps them chaste.

Ideal Mother- in law

1. Facilitate searching a good spouse for your child
2. Do not lay conditions of future daughter in law or son in law,
leave the choice your children, unless they do something
haraam.
3. Do no make cumbersome demands from your daughter inlaw,.
4. Urge them to marry early and teach them to be good spouses.
5.Treat your daughter in law on same terms with your daughters.
6.Facilitate her and encourage her to complete her duties of her
husband with ihsan.

6. Do not complain against her to her

husband.
7. Do not lay burdensome chores upon her
and expect your obedience and servitude.
Both should live amicably helping one
another as being relatives, without
becoming commanding and demanding.

? A Patient Mother - A Woman Of Jannah ?? ? Emotional ? Sheikh Bilal Assad ? TDR ?.mp4

Reconnecting Heartz
For all those sweetheart daughters out
there, ask a sincere apology for any ways
you might have hurt your mother and father,
knowingly or unknowingly and make firm
decision to never do it again.