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CONVERSATIONS
Transforming Your School
One Conversation at a Time
By: Linda Gross Cheliotes & Maceta Fleming Reilly
While NO conversation is
guaranteed to change the
trajectory of a career, a company,
a relationship or a life--any
SINGLE conversation can.
---Susan Scott, Fierce
Conversation
Research says...
We resist change neurologically!
Motivating others or ourselves to change requires changing our long
established brain patterns.
Changing our thinking requires deep reflection and intentional, ongoing
practice in order to create and develop new pathways in our brain.
When engaged in Coaching Conversations.based on the research it
fosters deep reflection necessary to establish new thinking patterns
provides ongoing support to practice new thinking skills and behaviors
leads to real change at the surface level and the neurological level
creating awareness
teaching
designing actions
offering options
monitoring progress
celebrating success
Components of Committed
Listening
Verbal and Nonverbal Communication-- nearly of
meaning between speakers comes from nonverbal
cues
Value Silence-- provide the speaker with space and
time for reflection and processing; allows the
speaker to control the timing, pace, and direction
of a potentially difficult conversation
Components of Committed
Listening (contd)
Avoiding Unproductive Patterns of Listening-Judgement/criticism (i.e. Why did you do it that way? I tried that
last week and it didnt work.)
Autobiographical listening- refrain from telling your own similar
stories to focus his/her full attention on the speaker; this turns
the focus of the conversation to the listener rather than the
speaker
Inquisitive listening- becoming overly curious about irrelevant
details of the story
Solution listening- offering quick solutions; when advice wasnt
sought
Components of Committed
Listening (contd)
Listen Without Obligation to Act
Witnessing the struggle (Kathy Kee)
By your presence and committed listening you convey that you
empathize with the speaker
Allows you to hear what the person is saying rather than
formulating your next response
Feedback
Stimulates learning
Encourages learners and contributes to the learners motivation
Specific constructive feedback that is given in a timely fashion promotes motivation in
others.
Giving good feedback to colleagues helps to build capacity and allows you to be a true
partner.
This type of feedback is lay it on the line critical feedback focuses on telling someone
what is wrong.
Prompts alienation
mode
The receiver often stops listening and causes them to go into a defensive
2. Conciliatory Feedback
Creates an environment and allows for true dialogue between two people
Journal Reflection
Create a journal reflection to help you prepare to have a difficult or
important conversation you want to have with someone
Reflective Feedback to Support Excellence
WHY..Coaching Conversations
As leaders we can help others find their passions, rediscover their strengths & build from
there.
Gives us the power to transform our department by:
Employing coach-like behaviors
committed listening, powerful speaking, and reflective feedback
convey your belief in their personal brilliance to reflect, generate possibilities, plan, & excute
solutions.