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O An emotion is something
you feel that is brief, that is
always linked to an event
or a person.
Four Basic Emotions
&
Shame. Shame is not a primary feeling. Primary feelings
are present at birth. Every baby will feel sad, mad, glad
and scared. But no baby feels ashamed. This is learned.
Inevitable Complexity
O Some complex feelings. The primary feelings combine to form
complex feelings. Here are some combinations to ponder.
O Sadness and anger combine to the "hurt" feeling. There is a mixed sense
of loss and violation.
O Sadness and fear combine to feeling "needy". A sense of impending loss
mixed with a desperation to cling to what you expect to lose.
O Sadness and joy combine as nostalgia.
O Fear and joy combine to excitement or fun (depending on the proportions).
Kids love this combination.
O Fear and anger combine to form rage. There is always an element of
helplessness, of fear, in rage.
O Anger and joy combine to form self-righteousness. Another name for this is
cruelty.
Why Emotions are Important
O Survival
O Decision Making
O Predicting Behavior
O Boundary Setting
O Communicating
Out of control
emotions makes
smart people
stupid
Emotion related dysfunction
O all or nothing thinking O Impact on physical health
O disqualifying the position O cardiovascular disease
O jumping to negative O progression of diabetes
conclusions O progression of cancer
O labeling & mislabeling O onset of hypertension
O excessive worrying O Impact on relationships
O should statements
O Impact on mental health
O stonewalling
How to define EI
A Definition of Emotional Intelligence
Being nice
Letting feelings
hang out
Emotional Intelligence refers to the capacity for
recognizing our own feelings and those of others,
for motivating ourselves, and for managing
emotions well in ourselves and our relationships.
Goleman, 1998
Emotional Items Needs Needs Some Definite
Competency Substantial Development Strength
Development
Learn to be optimistic