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Developing Leadership Competence
Dr Dinesh Pant
What makes a person successful in
leadership roles?
Environmental forces
Much of success / failure of a person is due
to the outside forces.
Personal competencies
Every one is personally responsible for his /
her success or failure.
Discover the 90/10 Principle
10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is decided by how you react
We cannot control a traffic red light while driving,
but we can control our reaction to the light.
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in
tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the
cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm
upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been
crying not finishing breakfast and not getting ready for school. She misses the bus.
Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your
daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph
speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing NRs 200 traffic fine away, you
arrive at school.
Your daughter runs into the school building without saying goodbye. After arriving
at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has
started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward
to coming home.
When you arrive home, you find coolness in your relationships with your spouse
and daughter. Why? ..
Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it? Because of how you reacted in the morning?
The other possible reaction: Here is what could have and
should have happened.
Tea pours over you. Your daughter is scared and about to
cry. You gently say, "Its Okay dear, you just need to be more
careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After
grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back
down in time to look through the window and see your child
getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5
minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss
comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended
different.
Why?
Because of how you REACTED.
What makes a person successful?
Thinking
Feeling
Willing
Doing (behaving)
New Areas of Managerial Competencies
Conventional meaning of Intelligence Quotient (IQ) is
based on cognitive skills (knowledge-based)
Multi-intelligence is needed!
New intelligence typologies are:
Emotional Intelligence (EQ)
Moral Intelligence (MQ)
Spiritual Intelligence (SQ)
All these help to build positive attitudes!
What is Emotion ?
A movement in our state of mind; moved or
excited state of mind!
But,
You can learn to choose what or how you
want to feel
Self-Assessment Exercise
Common Demands Rating Scale
Below are some common demands people make. We call them the "Dirty Dozen" On a scale from 1-5, rate how these beliefs apply to you.
1. Very Seldom applies to me 2. Seldom applies to me
3. Sometimes applies to me 4. Often applies to me
5. Very often applies to me
(Note: You may want to photocopy this scale, fill it out, and place it in your notebook for future reference.)
Frequency
Intensity
Duration
Type of expression
Strategies for managing Anger
Keep rating your anger
Manage your stress level self-talk phrases
(e.g., take it easy, relax, stay cool, maintain mutual
respect, work for win-win, etc.)
Use your sense of humor
Develop empathy to others concern
Pay attention to your body language
Get rid of the ghosts from the past
Develop a list of things to do when I am
angry
Express anger properly, if necessary
Guidelines for expressing anger
Make sure that anger:
Show superiority
Show superiority