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Chapter 6
Relationship: “Set of expectations two (2) people have for
their behavior based on the pattern of interaction between
them”
Guidelines:
1. Initiate conversations by introducing yourself, referring to
physical context, etc.
2. Develop “other-centered” focus by asking questions,
listening, following up
3. Engage in appropriate turn-taking
4. Make comments relevant to what has been said
5. Be polite
“People with whom we have voluntarily negotiated more
personal relationships”
Guidelines:
o Initiation: Be proactive in setting up times to spend together
o Responsiveness: Each person must listen
o Self-disclosure: Friends share feelings with one another
o Emotional support: Provide comfort and support when needed
o Conflict management: Manage conflicts so both parties’ needs are
met
“Those few people with whom we share close, caring, and
trusting relationships categorized by a high degree of
commitment, trust, interdependence, disclosure, and
enjoyment”
Guidelines:
o Be dependable
o Be responsive in meeting partner’s needs
o Manage conflict in collaborative manner
o Be faithful in maintaining partner’s confidentiality
o Be transparent: honestly share ideas/feelings
o Be willing to give up things to spend time together
Known to Self Not Known to Self
Known to
Others Open (O) Blind (B)
Not
Known to Secret (S) Unknown (U)
Others
First Stage: Beginning and Developing
- Earliest communication focuses on learning about
other person to reduce uncertainty
- Look for feelings of relaxation and confirmation
- If relationship grows deeper, it is perceived to have
closeness
- Partners tend to share greater physical contact
- Partners begin to share feelings, disclose more
personal info, depend upon each other for favors and
support
Second Stage: Maintaining a Relationship
- Both people behave and communicate in ways that
keep relationship at a particular level of closeness
- In stable relationships, we choose to spend time with
the other person
- We will have established expectations for the kinds
and frequency of unselfish acts each of us will
perform
- Most likely to act selflessly with intimates
Third Stage: De-escalating and Ending a Relationship
- Sometimes, relationship becomes less satisfying to
one or both partners
- Other times, relationships deteriorate w/o either
partner consciously feeling dissatisfied and deciding
to change the relationship
- Marked by three (3) phases
1. Recognition of dissatisfaction
2. Disengaging
3. Ending
Seemingly opposing forces that occur in all interpersonal
relationships
o Openness—closedness
o Autonomy—connection
o Novelty—predictability