Self-Esteem

WHY study:

SELF-ESTEEM
To have a more positive self-awareness
To see yourself honestly and to like or at least
accept yourself

To remove the internal barriers that keep you

from doing your best.
 The way YOU
THINK and FEEL
about yourself
Can change from
MOMENT to
 Feeling
POSITIVELY
about yourself,
your actions,
and your
future
of people with
HIGH
 Feeling
NEGATIVELY
about yourself,
your actions,
and your
future
of people with
LOW

People with low self-

esteem are often drawn to
each other – these
relationships are often
destructive – hurtful rather
than helpful
Seek to understand whatever has an
influence on your life – be aware of the
world around you

Be respectful toward yourself – refuse

to reject yourself

Recognize that you are the source of your

own choices, actions – YOU make your life
what it is
Stand up for your values and feelings –
find appropriate ways to express them

Take responsibility for identifying your

goals

Exhibit your principles of behavior to others.

Keep your promises and honor your
commitments
 Components of Self Esteem
SE has two basic components.
1. Self efficacy:

Confidence in the ability to cope with life challenges.

It leads to a sense of control over

one’s life.
 2. Self respect:
• Experience oneself as
deserving of happiness,
achievement and love.

• Self respect makes

possible a sense of
community with others.
 Pillars of Self Esteem
1. Self Acceptance : To be self accepting is to own
and experience, without rejection or disowning, the
reality of, our thoughts ,emotions and actions.
 2. Living Consciously:
• To live consciously is to be
present to what we are doing:
• Facing facts that might be
uncomfortable or threatening;
• To be aware of the world
external to self and also to
world within.
 3. Self Responsibility:
• To be self responsible is to recognize that we are the
author of our choices and actions;
• That we must be then ultimate source of our own
fulfillment;
• That no one is coming to make
our life right for us ,or Make us
happy, or Give us self esteem.
 4. Self
Assertiveness:
• The willingness to
express appropriately ,
our thoughts , values, and
feelings.

• To stand up for
ourselves, To speak and
act from our deepest
convictions.
 5. Living purposefully:
• Setting goals and working to achieve them,
rather than ,living at the mercy of chance and
outside forces.
 6. Integrity:

• Acting in equivalence with

what we believe is right.

• To keep our promises and

honor our commitments.
WAYS TO IMPROVE YOUR SELF-
ESTEEM
• FOCUS ON YOUR SUCCESSES, and do
not reside on past failures.
• EMPHASIZE YOUR STRENGTHS, not
your weaknesses.
• LOOK AT YOUR CONTRIBUTIONS,
and what you did, versus comparing yourself
to others or what they did.
• ASSOCIATE WITH PEOPLE WHO
ARE POSITIVE, don’t become the skeptic.
• FIND WAYS TO COOPERATE, don’t
fight new ideas or new people
• Make every day special; look for WHAT
YOU CAN DO to make things work better so
you can enjoy each day (at work and home).
• When things get you down, REMEMBER
WHO, AND WHAT, MAKES YOU
HAPPY.
• CALL ON YOUR SPIRITUAL
STRENGTHS, you are valuable and have an
important purpose in your life.
• WRITE DOWN THE POSITIVE
COMMENTS people give you every day;
read them back to yourself every morning.
• TREAT OTHERS WITH DIGNITY
and respect, they will be more likely to
treat you that way too.