BE PROACTIVE

I AM THE FORCE
WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

You overhear your best

friend bad-mouthing you
in front of a group. 5
Minutes ago, she was
talking nicely to you.You
feel betrayed and hurt.

Which are your options?

WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

• Tell her off, then hit her

• Go into a deep
depression, because you
feel so bad
• Decide she is a two
faced liar and give her
the silence treatment
• Spread rumors about her
REACTIVE VS. PROACTIVE PEOPLE
Reactive People Proactive People

• Make choices based • Make choices based

on impulse on principles
• Are driven by feelings • Are responsible of
• They build their their own lives
emotional lives • Based on decisions,
around others’ not conditions
behavior
 CAN YOU THINK ON PROACTIVE
RESPONSES?
• Forgive her and give her a second
chance

• Confront her and share how you feel

that she badmouthed on you

• Ignore the problem and give her a

second chance. Realize that she has
weaknesses just like you, and that you
might have done the same thing before.
 LISTEN TO YOUR LANGUAGE

• I’ll try • I’ll do it

Proactive language
Reactive language

• That’s just the way I am • I can do better than that

• There’s nothing I can do • Let´s look at all our
• I have to options
• I can’t • I choose to
• You ruined my day • There’s gotta be a way
• I’m not going to let your
bad mood rub off on me
VICTIMITIS
People who believe that others are against them and that the world
owes them something.

• Are easily offended

• Blame others

• Get angry and say things they later regret

• Criticize and complain

• Wait for things to happen to them

• Change only when they have to

THE PROACTIVE PERSON

Becomes responsible of his own life

Responsibility = Response + ability
The ability to choose your response
CONTROL WHAT YOU CAN

Things you can’t control

Things you can control
• Your bloodline
• The country you were born in • Yourself
• Your skin color
• The weather • Your attitudes
• Your dad’s character • Your choices
• Your brother’s attitude
• The government • Your responses
BECOMING PROACTIVE
• Take initiative to • Wait for something
make it happen to happen to them
• Think about • Think about
Solutions and problems and
options barriers
• Act • Are acted upon
Can-Do No-Can-
People Do People
HOMEWORK

• Download the file: Be proactive- Activity.pdf

• Do every one of the tasks – you have a week
• Mark them as you complete them
• On the back of the page, write what you liked and disliked
from those activities