SELF-CONCEPT

Mirror: ACTUAL SELF or IDEAL SELF?

SELF-CONCEPT > refers to your awareness of

yourself.
>self evaluation

ACTUAL SELF- one that you actually see

-you have nurtured, you were born to
have
-built on self-knowledge (insight into
how others react to you through social interactions)
-how we think, how we feel, look and act
-can be seen by others
-self-image
IDEAL SELF- self that you aspire to be
-one that you hope you will possess
characteristics (mentor or some worldly figure)
-separate from others
-based on what we have learned
and experienced
-include components of:
1. what our parents have taught us
2. what we admire in others
3. what our society promotes
4. what we think is in our best interest
• There is negotiation that exists between the two
selves because there are numerous exchanges
between them.
• These are exemplified in social roles that are
adjusted and re-adjusted and are from outcomes of
social interactions from infant to adult
development.
• Alignment is important!
- If the way I am is aligned with the way I want
to be, then I will feel a sense of mental well-being
or peace of mind. If not, then it will result to
mental distress or anxiety.
PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS
- means making use of all personal resources:
talents, skills, energy and time to enable you to
achieve life goals.
-how you know yourself and how you manage
yourself
-keys are: being self-aware, making the most of
your strengths, learning new skills and techniques
and behavioral flexibility
- depends on our innate characteristics (talents
and experiences)
Identify talents first! Develop them after.
*Develop an action plan to achieve effectiveness and
risk assessment. Practice the right skills!

USEFUL SKILLS for EFFECTIVENESS:

1. Determination - focusing only on achieving a
specific goal (self-discipline)
2. Self-confidence – manifested in speech,
appearance, dressing, gait and physical condition;
to develop it, you need to know yourself more,
your capabilities and gain positive attitude
3. Persistence – keep moving forward regardless of
emerging obstacles (problems, laziness, etc)
4. Managing stress – combat stress that arises daily
from the environment and other people
5. Problem-solving skills – cope with the problems
encountered with a lack of experience; adopting
new ways of achieving goals when obtaining a new
experience
6. Creativity – find extraordinary ways to carry out a
specific action that no one has tried to use; decrease
or increase of costs
7. Generating ideas – achieve goals using new,
original, unconventional ideas; allows you to
materialize, visualize and scrutinize all your ideas
which in turn contributes to emergence of new
ideas
THE SELF-CONCEPT INVENTORY
Give yourself a rating using the scale:
0- very weak 1- weak 2- somewhat weak or
somewhat strong 3 – strong 4- very strong

1. I have strong sex appeal

2. I am proud of my physical figure.
3. I am physically attractive and
beautiful/handsome.
4. I exude with charm and poise
5. I am easy to get along with.
6. I can adjust to different people and different
situations.
7. I am approachable.
8. I am lovable and easy to love.
9.I am a fast learner, can understand with one
instruction.
10. I am intelligent.
11. I have special talents and abilities.
12. I can easily analyze situations and make right
judgments.
13. I can be trusted in any transaction.
14. I have a clean conscience and carry no gut feeling.
15. I have integrity an goof reputation.
16. My friends and classmates can look up to me as
model worth emulating.
17. I can express my ideas without difficulty.
18. I can talk in a persuasive manner. I can get
people to accept what I day.
19. I can express my ideas in writing without
difficulty.
20. I’m a good listener.
21. I am emotionally stable
22. I am logical and rational in my outlook
and decisions.
23. I feel and act with confidence.
24. I am a mature person.
Get your subtotal.
PHYSICAL APPEAREANCE: CHARACTER:
1 13.
2 14.
3 15.
4 16.

HUMAN RELATIONS: COMMUNICATIONS:

5 17.
6 18.
7 19.
8 20.

INTELLIGENCE: MATURITY:
9 21.
10 22.
11 23.
12 24.
Scores: 14-16 STRONG 10-13 SOMEWHAT WEAK below 10
VERY WEAK
ASSIGNMENT:
1. Bring a long bondpaper and
other art materials
tomorrow.
2.STUDY for a QUIZ!
3.Prepare your variety
show/fashion show.
June 19, 2019

BUILD ON YOUR
STRENGTHS AND
WORK ON YOUR
WEAKNESSES
*Most failures come from weaknesses that are
not recognized or not given appropriate
remedy- communications, personality or ability.
*Instead of giving up or indulging in self-pity,
TAKE ACTION! (Go for speech lessons, get
skills upgrading, attend PerDev sessions or the
like)
*Instead of focusing on your weaknesses,
recognize your own talents and abilities, build
on them, use them for your advantage.
*Handicapped people did not brood their
physical handicap. Instead, they showed that
others are wrong to judge them!
YOU NEED TO TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR
FUTURE!

Three kinds of people – WHERE DO YOU BELONG?

1. MOVIEGOER – watches the lives of others and

his/her own; admires some and criticizes others;
most pathetic and most miserable

“I have no control over my/your life. I’m just here to

comment it.”
“I like this. I don’t like that.”
2. ACTOR – not only watches but realizes she can
have control on a big part of her life depending on
how well she delivers her lines and how she
portrays her character; a happy bunch; wish her life
(the movie) would end in another way but realizes
she has no say in such things.

“I may do this or do that but at the end of day I’m

just an actor who follows the Director’s
command.”

“I cannot control how this would end. So I’m just

gonna enjoy this.”
3. SCRIPTWRITER – does not only watch and act
but creates the entire story/movie, her life, from
her mind; determines what she will say, do and how
the movie will end; realizes she has enormous
control over her life and sees to it that it will turn
out beautiful

“I know what I’m going to say and do. I got it all

figured out.”

“I know how to give this a happy ending.”

But at the end of the day, ONLY GOD who is
the Producer, has the final say whether or
not the script you have made and acting
skills you have is good-to-go. Only HE can
determine whether the plans you have for
your “movie” is okay or not.

“Make the movie beautiful and I will

give you all that you need for
success.”
-GOD, your Producer
SO, WHICH KIND ARE YOU?

Do you just watch your life go by?

Do you act out the script handed to you?

Or do you write the script and make your

life beautiful?
HOW ARE THE EIGHT
SEGMENTS OF YOUR
DEVELOPMENT?

ARE YOU CONTENTED WITH

WHAT YOU HAVE WRITTEN
OR DO YOU WANT TO
CHANGE SOMETHING ABOUT
YOURSELF?
ASPEC
TS OF
1. The self-concept is represented by
several aspects of the self.
2. Self-relevance affects self-
evaluations.
3. A deeper look on these aspects can
identify specific areas for self-
regulation, stability and
improvement.
• An individual is composed of THREE BASIC
aspects of the self.
• These aspects work together in harmony
when attention is properly paid.
A. PHYSICAL aspect – have been given
strong emphasis
-tangible, obvious; is
responded to easily (more time and money)
-body provides a
place to house the spirit and the mind.
2. INTELLECTUAL ASPECT
– must be prominent and educated
- Directs the two other aspects
- Learns and communicates to the body
and the feelings
- What the mind believes, the body acts
on and the emotions respond to
- Provides creativity and serenity needed
for prayer, forgiveness, acceptance and
passion
3. EMOTIONAL ASPECT
- Most feared; We are reluctant
and unprepared to manage
them.
- Illusive and deceptive
- Emotional stress must be under
control for it impacts the whole
person negatively.
 THE
POWER
TRIAD
Do you have a
favorite villain or
ANTAGONIST in a
story or movie?
Share naman
diyan :)
 The Story of the Two Wolves

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about

a little battle that goes on inside people. He said, “My
son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all. It
is a terrible fight. One wolf is evil- he is ANGER,
ENVY, SORROW, REGRET, GREED, ARROGANCE,
SELF-PITY, GUILT, RESENTMENT, INFERIORITY,
LIES, FALSE PRIDE, SUPERIORITY AND EGO.”

He continued, “The other is good – he is JOY, PEACE,

LOVE, HOPE, SERENITY, HUMILITY, KINDNESS,
BENEVOLENCE, EMPATHY, GENEROSITY,
TRUTH, COMPASSION AND FAITH.”
“The same fight is going on inside
you and every other person too.”

The grandson thought about it for a

minute and then asked his grandfather,
“Grandpa, which wolf wins?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The

one you feed.”
Points to ponder:

1. Knowing which side to practice the most is the

first step towards recognizing you have control
over yourself.
2. Try your best to manage your mind so that you
can live your life more in accordance with what
your own judgment says is best for you.
3. We gradually become aware of the many things
in the external world which are largely beyond
our ability to control.
(ex: other people, life changes/adjustments, etc.)
4. Truth is, some of the things that we don’t
have the POWER to control are our own
FEELINGS, THOUGHTS and ACTIONS
which can be the source of much distress.
(‘Pag nagpatalo ka sa sarili mong bagbag ng
damdamin at pag-iisip, TALO ka talaga!)

5. Each wolf you feed corresponds to a

particular result/consequence.
“The one you feed is the wolf who wins.”

1. The mind or brain may be the control organ but

it’s NOT the ONLY organ in the body. Other
organs can work in harmony to give you more
positivity than negativity.
2. The parts of the brain can interact and be in
conflict with each other. (the two wolves fight for
dominance over our mind and behavior)
3. YOU HAVE THE ABILITY TO DECIDE WHICH
SIDE TO PRACTICE/WHICH WOLF TO FEED.
4. Having made a choice, “you” can decide how to
“feed” or nurture the selected wolf.
So, are you always GOOD? Or are you always
BAD? How can you say so?

In what ways do you control your emotions,

thoughts and actions?

How do you make sure that you always feed

the “good wolf?”

Have you ever regretted BEING GOOD?

BEING BAD? Share your experience/s.
 MODULE 3

Developmental
Stages in Middle
and Late
Adolescence
Where do you want to be
five to ten years from now?

Are you happy with how or

what your life has become?
DEVELOPMENTAL STAGES
-Human development focuses on human growth and
changes across the lifespan (physical, cognitive,
social, intellectual, perceptual, personality and
emotional growth)
-Studying this is essential to understanding how
humans learn, mature and adapt.
-CHANGE is always present, either in state of growth
or decline.
-Some aspects change very little while others change
dramatically.
-By understanding these, we can better respond and
plan ahead effectively.
DEVELOPMENTAL STAGES and their
CHARACTERISTICS
1. Pre-natal (conception to birth)
-hereditary endowments and sex are fixed, all
external and internal body features are developed
2. Infancy (birth to 2 years)
-foundation age; basic behaviors are organized
3. Early Childhood (2 to 6 years)
-pre gang age, exploratory and questioning, language
and elementary reasoning are acquired and initial
socialization is experienced
4. Late Childhood (6 to 12 years)
-gang and creativity age; self-help, school, and play
skills are developed
5. Adolescence (puberty to 18 years)
-transition age from childhood to adulthood; sex
maturation and rapid physical development occur;
big changes in feeling, thinking and acting
6. Early adulthood (18 to 40 years)
-adjustment to new patterns of life and roles as
spouse, parent and breadwinner
7. Middle Age (40 years to retirement)
-transition age of adjustments to initial physical and
mental decline
8. Old age (retirement to death)
-increasingly rapid physical and mental decline are
experienced
HAVIGHURST’S DEVELOPMENTAL TASKS
DURING THE LIFE SPAN
• Robert J. Havighurst elaborated on the
Developmental Taks Theory in the most
systematic and extensive manner.
• Development is continuous throughout the
entire lifespan occurring in stages where the
individual moves from one stage to the next
by means of successful resolution of
problems or performance of developmental
tasks.
• These tasks are those that are typically
encountered by most people in the culture
where the individual belongs.
• He feels pride and satisfaction and earns his
society’s approval if he successfully
accomplishes and masters the developmental
task.
• This success provides a sound foundation which
allows him/her to accomplish tasks to be
encountered at later stages.
• This presents the individual as an active learner
who continually interacts with a similarly active
social environment.
- Heproposed a BIO
PYSCHOSOCIAL MODEL of
DEVELOPMENT wherein
developmental tasks are influenced
by the individual’s biology (genetic
makeup), his psychology (personal
values and goals) and sociology
(specific culture to which he/she
belongs)
 THE DEVELOPMENTAL TASKS Summary
A. Infancy and early childhood (0-5)
- learning to walk
- Learning to take solid foods
- Learning to talk
- Learning to control the elimination of body
wastes
- Learning sex differences and sexual modesty
- Acquiring concepts and language to describe
social and physical reality
- Readiness for reading
- Learning to distinguish right from wrong anf
developing a conscience
B. Middle childhood (6-12)
- Learning physical skills necessary for ordinary
games
- Building a wholesome attitude toward oneself
- Learning to get along with age-mates
- Learning an appropriate sex role
- Developing fundamental skills in reading, writing
and calculating
- Developing concepts necessary for everyday living
- Developing conscience, morality and a scale of
values
- Achieving personal independence
- Developing acceptable attitudes toward society
C. Adolescence (13-18)
- Achieving mature relations with both sexes
- Achieving a masculine or feminine social
role
- Accepting one’s physique
- Achieving emotional independence of adults
- Preparing for marriage and family life
- Preparing for an economic career
- Acquiring values and an ethical system to
guide behavior
- Desiring and achieving socially
responsibility behavior
D. Early Adulthood (19-30)
- Selecting a mate
- Learning to live with a partner
- Starting a family
- Rearing children
- Managing a home
- Starting an occupation
- Assuming civic responsibility
E. Middle adulthood (30-60)
- Helping teenage children to become happy
and responsible adults
- Achieving adult social and civic
responsibility
- Satisfactory career achievement
- Developing adult leisure time activities
- Relating to one’s spouse as a person
- Accepting the physiological changes of
middle age
- Adjusting to aging parent
F. Later Maturity (61----)
- Adjusting to decreasing strength and
health
- Adjusting to retirement and reduced
income
- Adjusting to death of spouse
- Establishing relations with one’s own
age group
- Meeting social and civic obligations
- Establishing satisfactory living quarters
 Your next journal:
WORKSHEET ON DEVELOPMENTAL TASKS
OF BEING IN GRADE 11
What are the expected What are the expected What are the expected
tasks you have tasks you have partially tasks you have not
successfully accomplished? accomplished?
accomplished?
Processing questions:
1. As you are in Grade 11, how do you feel
about your transition from high school to
college/from being an adolescent to young
adult?
2. Do you think you are ready for this
transition which may mean more
responsibilities and greater accountability?
Why or why not?
3. How can you cope up with these
developmental tasks as you mature?