Chapter 8

Social Grace
Social Graces, more
popularly known as good
manners and etiquette is
not a “put-on” or “add-
on” to one’s personality.
 “Manners,” says Webster,
“are social conduct or
rules of conduct.”

“Manners” are also

based on the past social
customs.
Etiquette consists of an
“act of rules of living in
our society.”
Starting To Be “Finished”

 Etiquette
- comes from Old French,
means “ticket” or “label.”
 How Often Do You Smile

 Smiling is an instant
energizer.
 Smiling also improves your
voice quality by relaxing your
throat muscles.
 Eye Contact

 If you want to look and

sound sincere, maintain
eye contact with the
person you are speaking
to.
 Social Graces in the Family

The home is the place we

“let go” so to speak.
We should respect the
privacy of each member
of the family.
 Family Manners

Where there is life, there should be

love.
Love makes a house a home.
The importance to love the family
is communication.
There is no such thing as “a little
white lies.”
 Honor your parents
 Fathers and mothers deserve respect.
 Ask for their advice
 Look at things from their perspective
 Try to please them
 Have a good attitude
 Show respect
 Thank them
 Compliment them
 Obey them
 Sisters and Brothers
 Problems can be avoided if we:
 Don’t tease them
 Don’t be sarcastic
 Don’t tattle
 Showed love
 Helped one another
 Picked up for one another
 Didn’t worry about “favorites”
 Didn’t count chores
 Don’t mock
 Stick up for one another
Social Graces in public places

 In the street – when walking in

groups do not walk more than two
abreast. Let others pass from behind
you.
On the bus – time was when had to
give up their seats for the ladies.
In a restaurant – dining out is
one of the “musts” in today’s
society.
 The Smorgasbord

It is food served buffet style.

It is a buffet of such variety
and interest that is becoming
increasingly popular, both in
the Philippines and the United
States.
Calling the waiter
 Paying the check
 TIPPING
 In Church – is a place to worship. It
is a formal, quiet place.
At the Theater – with a revival of
cultural presentations in Greater
Manila area, it is imperative that a
person who is studying to have
improved social graces, learn how
to behave and what to wear to
these functions.
At the Movies – unless you are
attending a movie premier,
“casual” attire is in order.
Talking, coughing, rattling
cellophane and candy wrappers,
cracking of nuts, etc. – are
annoying and disturbing to
everyone in the audience.
 INTRODUCTIONS
1. Mentioning name of person you are honoring first
- this person could be an older person, a
distinguished person, a lady, your boss, a
clergyman, etc.
2. Business reversal of ordinary introduction
3. Acknowledging an Introduction – the best
acknowledgement is “How do you do.”
4. Shaking Hands – shaking hands is a more formal
way of acknowledging an introduction.
5. Rising for an Introduction
6.Introducing oneself – there are
occasions when you find yourself
beside a person at a gathering and
there is no one to introduce you.
7. When incorrectly introduced
 Manners at the Table

 One of the most accurate measures of

civilization – be it a society’s, a family’s
or an individual’s – is the way it feeds
itself. Dining ranges from very formal
situations to an ordinary, day-to-day
table amenities. Neatness, noiselessness,
and sociability are the goals of dining
etiquette.
Cocktail Parties – become the
most common form of
entertaining, and they are the
most popular form of business
entertaining. They require less
preparation and are less
expensive than a dinner party.
 Table Etiquette
 Dining Etiquette
- Table Setting
- Napkin
- Served
- Dessert Utensils
- Passing
- Bread
- Glasses
- Finished
- Glasses
Napkin Use
 Ordering
 “Reading” the table setting
 Use of Silverware
 When you have finished
BUSINESS ETIQUETTE

 Punctuality
 Greeting
 Telephone Manners
 Smoking
 Office Parties
 Cultural Courtesy
THANK
YOU!