“PARENTING”

BY MS. RINA SINGH

INTRODUCTION
ON CHILDREN

Your children are not your children.

They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
Which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children

As living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
And He bends you with His might
That His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so HE loves also the bow that is stable.
 “The steps
that I heard in
my childhood
plays, their
music
resounds in
the music of
the world.”
- Rabindranath Tagore
Child with the freedom to
The toy merely expressed his
make his own toys out of
wealth, but not the child’s
trifles & create his own
creative spirit, not the child’s
games from imagination.
generous joy in his plays.
“WONDER CHILD”
CAREER-ORIENTED
ACADEMICS
 SELF ACTUALIZATION
 Helping your children find their element is a part
of finding a sense of direction and purpose of their
lives.
 It’s very difficult for any of us to “self- actualize” if
our other needs are not being met, and it’s
especially here that your roles as a parent and
those of education should line up. Education is the
essential path to self-actualization, and making
good decision for and with your children about
their education will go a long way towards helping
them become the people they can be.
 ESTEEM
 When children aren’t given the space to struggle
through things on their own, they don’t learn to
problem-solve very well. They don’t learn to be
confident in their own abilities and it can affect
their self-esteem.
 The other problem with never having to struggle
is that you never experience failure and can
develop an overwhelming fear of failure and of
disappointing others. Both the self-confidence
and the fear of failure can lead to depression and
anxiety.
TYPES OF PARENTING STYLES

Authoritarian parents
have set of rules for their
children to follow, without
much explanation about
why the rules exist.
Breaking them often leads
to harsh punishment
Authoritative parents
also have rules for their
children but they explain
the reason behind them
and to discuss and adapt
them as circumstances
dictate.
• Permissive parents tend to be very lenient on
their children, often treating them equals or
friends. They lay out few rules and present
their kids with few expectations.
Uninvolved parents abstain from parenting as
much as they can. They make sure that their
kids have food and shelter, but they offer very
little in terms of nurturing or guidance.
Helicopter parents, who
are obsessively protective of
their children, supervising
them continuously, always
at their side to make sure
they never fall down or get
hurt.
 “WHAT SOCRATES
SAID”

Conversation in between a father & son

Socrates :- What do people
do to earn this name as Lamprocles :-We call someone
“Ungrateful”? ungrateful if they have been
treated well & could show
gratitude in return but don’t.
Socrates :- Could it perhaps be that it’s wrong to
show ingratitude toward our friends but right to
show ingratitude to our enemies?

Lamprocles :- Whether someone is friend

or an enemy, either way, as long as we’ve
received a favour from them then we
should show them gratitude in return.
“They both agree that being ungrateful to
anyone, friend or enemy, who does you
favour would be height of injustice.”

Socrates :- The greater a favour

someone receives without showing
gratitude in return, the more unjust
they are being, and his son agrees !
 RAISE AN INTEGRATED HUMAN
INNER AWAKENING
•The power of refection
•Develop a rational thinking mind
•Lead the child to understand the
process of discovery & enquiry
•Teach the difference between
•Ethics & morality
•Justice and righteousness
OUTWARD
•Inclusiveness & appreciation of
diversity
•Gender sensitivity
•Religious tolerance & secular
values
•Appreciation of heritage culture,
poetry and music
•Knowledge and harmony
POWER OF REFLECTION
DEVELOP A RATIONAL THINKING MIND
PROCESS OF DISCOVERY & ENQUIRY
DIFFERENCE BETWEEN CONCENTRATION &
ATTENTION
ETHICS & MORALITY
JUSTICE AND RIGHTEOUSNESS
 INCLUSIVENESS

RACIAL
DIFFERENTLY DISCRIMINATION
ABLED
DISCRIMINATION
ON RICH & POOR

“We pledge ourselves to liberate all our people from the continuing bondage
of poverty, deprivation, suffering, gender and other discrimination.”
-Nelson Mandela
 GENDER SENSITIVITY

“How important it is for us to recognize and celebrate

our heroes and she-roes!”
― Maya Angelou
RELIGIOUS TOLERANCE & SECULAR BELIEFS

“Secularism must be applied everywhere, because

that is how everyone will be able to live in peace
with each other.”
-Manuel Valls
APPRECIATION OF HERITAGE, CULTURE,
POETRY & MUSIC
KNOWLEDGE & HARMONY
 PEACE AND CONFLICT

“Peace is not absence of conflict, it is the ability to

handle conflict by peaceful means.”    
-Ronald Reagan
The Champa Flower

SUPPOSING I became a Champa flower, just for fun, and grew on a branch high up that tree, and shook
in the wind with laughter and danced upon the newly budded leaves, would you know me, mother?

You would call, "Baby, where are you?" and I should laugh to myself and keep quite quiet.

I should slyly open my petals and watch you at your work.

When after your bath, with wet hair spread on your shoulders, you walked through the shadow of the
Champa tree to the little court where you say your prayers, you would notice the scent of the flower,
but not know that it came from me.

When after the midday meal you sat at the window reading Ramayana, and the tree's shadow fell over
your hair and your lap, I should fling my wee little shadow on to the page of your book, just where you
were reading.

But would you guess that it was the tiny shadow of your little child?

When in the evening you went to the cow-shed with the lighted lamp in your hand, I should suddenly
drop on to the earth again and be your own baby once more, and beg you to tell me a story.

"Where have you been, you naughty child?"

"I won't tell you, mother." That's what you and I would say then.
Thank You