Self “A” Winner In Me

OBJECTIVES
 Discuss the characteristics of an effective person;

 Describe the factors that influence their self-image;

 Demonstrate ways of becoming personally effective; and

 Assess honestly personal strengths, weaknesses and

potentials.
To become personally effective, one journeys to
become the person “we ought to be”.

It begins with and involves the 4 A’s of self-

becoming:

AWARENESS

ACCEPTANCE

APPRECIATION

ACTUALIZATION
 SELF-AWARENESS

 Includes our beliefs and perceptions

about ourselves.

 What we are and what we would like to be.

 The first step in our journey to growth and

development.
 We can only improve ourselves when
we know what to improve.

 Knowing who we are is a long, hard

and sometimes painful process.
 We learn about ourselves through

 meaningful interaction and relationship

with others,

 our actions which will show what we are

capable of doing and achieving

 an open and honest evaluation of our

thoughts, feelings, actions, beliefs, dreams
and hopes.
 SELF-ACCEPTANCE

 Being yourself and not trying to be

somebody else.

 A person who has accepted oneself

is happy with what he/she has and
comfortable in accepting what he/she
does not have.
 can face difficulties without giving up
and can stand equally to the
challenges of life.

 dares to do something that demands

the best in him/her without fear of
failing as he/she is sure that in trying
he/she begins to see himself/herself
in new light.
 SELF-APPRECIATION

 To appreciate oneself is building the

qualities you are satisfied and work
on the ones you are not happy
about.

 It is knowing your strength and liking

yourself.
 One who appreciates oneself is
not expecting to be perfect by
tomorrow morning. It is being
patient and giving oneself time to
grow.

 It can also mean learning to laugh

at the stupid things you do and
forgiving yourself when you mess
up.
 Appreciates oneself and
practices self-honesty.

 Let other people see the genuine

article and do not appear through
smoke and mirrors.
 SELF-ACTUALIZATION

 We must become our best self.

 We must put to maximum use our God given

talents and abilities.

 We have our dreams. We must use our

positive talents, values and attitudes to
make those dreams realities.
 We have to walk through life wearing
glasses that say :

“I can do it”
“I can be the best”

to put positive spin in everything we do.

 Self-actualization depends on how
well you are able to construct yourself
to be PERSONALLY EFFECTIVE.

 Your constructed self includes:

your attitudes toward yourself
and your perceptions about several
aspects of yourself;
what you are good at; what you
can or can’t do;
what your future will be.
SIX MAJOR FACTORS WHICH INFLUENCE OUR
CONSTRUCTED SELF.

Parenting styles
I nteraction
Education
Culture
Experiences
Self Talks
 PARENTING STYLE

 Our parents and other significant others in our

environment are our first teachers and models.

reflect
Our personality and how we carry ourselves
how they influenced us.

our
Our behavior and how we deal with others,
perceptions and values were shaped and
influenced by them.
 INTERACTION

 Interaction with others and our experiences with

them shape our attitudes, values and the way we
look at ourselves.

 Their comments, reactions and feedback shape our

self-image and our level of self-confidence.
 EDUCATION

 What we learn outside and inside of formal

classroom bears on who we are and how we
think and view the world.
 CULTURE

 Culture refers to patterns of

behavior
attitude
values
beliefs
traditions
that occur within a community
or groups of people
 CULTURE

 are determined by
spoken and unspoken assumptions
believed by the majority of the people
within that community or group of
people.

 The culture of group we belong to

shapes who we are and what we
become.
 EXPERIENCES

 Knowingly or unknowingly, our past and

present experiences have a significant
influence on our constructed self.

 It influences our attitude towards life, our

moods and our way of reaching to and
handling problems in our life.
 If we experienced a lot of difficulties
in our growing up years,
any problem we meet is viewed as
just another challenge;

failures become more setbacks

and opportunities for learning.
 SELF-TALK
 What we expect, believe and tell ourselves
determine what we can accomplish:

If you think you can do something, you

are likely to do it.

Tomanage
be personally successful, we must
our self-talk.
 There are two (2) important faces of
self-talk:

self-fulfilling prophecy
self-imposed limitation
 our beliefs and expectations
- affect our performance
- influence our behavior
- shape our success and
failure
- either empower us or
hinder us.
We need to:

Try to see more possibilities than obstacles.

Eliminate self-defeating thoughts and expectations.
expectations
Direct your thoughts to positive rather than negative
and outcomes.

Our best cheerleader is ourselves.

Our worst critic can only be ourselves.
 To be personally effective, we have to be like our architect,
continuously enhancing and strengthening our constructed
self.
We can use ARCH.

A ccept failures and mistakes and bounce back.

R e-align and re-frame your constructed self.

C onvert negative thoughts and emotions and control

inappropriate reactions.

H ave a vision.
 We build on our strengths and actualize our potentials
by constantly affirming our possibilities.

Affirmation can also be used to inspire, encourage other

people.

Bear in mind also that nobody is perfectly competent.

There are times when our actions, plans and
decisions are bound to be less successful.
But do not think of it as a failure, rather consider it as an
opportunity for learning.

In our search for continuous improvement, mistakes and

failures can happen. But all these are part of our
investment in continuous learning and
improvement.
SELF-IMPOSED LIMITATIONS
 Self-imposed limitations are like barriers in our mind which
move us away from what we could accomplish and keep us
from confronting situations which we are actually capable of.

 Italternatives
keeps us from trying to keep risks, prevents us from looking at
and from attempting difficult or seemingly impossible tasks.

 Self-imposed limitations program us for failure or limited success.

 We set lower goals and are likely to do much less than what we can
actually do.

 We must realign our beliefs and self talk with our personal goals.
 We must formulate concrete, specific and positive statements of what
we want to do or accomplish.

 There are three (3) common and effective ways of changing negative
beliefs: imagineering, experimenting, affirming.

 As we generate the mental picture of what we want to be or to do,

condition our inner self to accomplishing and fulfilling these goals.
 this
World class athletes and achievers consider
method as their secret to success. This is
widely used and another form of mental
“psyching up”.

EXPERIMENTING

 Do not just stop at imagining what we can do.

Proceed to put immediately to a test what you
thought of.

 Experimenting will help us select ideas to improve

what we are wishing for.
 It can also present new procedure of doing things.

 Actual experimenting can make you realize more satisfying effects of

the freedom that lead us to discover new ways of doing things.

AFFIRMING

 This consists of positive statements or self-talk which inspire,

encourage and energize.
The effective person is a winner. He/She ACHIEVES.

 A ssumes responsibility for his/her actions.

 C hooses options based on values.
 H armonize with self and others.
 I nvest in continuous self development
 E nergizes self to be in shape always
 V isualizes what he/she wants to be/to do.
 E xcels due to use of talents and skills
 S et priorities based on goals.
Winning or losing is a matter of choice.
Your own choice.
You were born a winner.
You were the best.
You have all it takes to be a winner, again.
You can’t blame anyone for your failures -
- - not even God.
Only your own self.