UNIT 3:

BUILDING &
MAINTAINING
RELATIONSHIPS
LESSON 9:
PERSONAL INTELLIGENCE
◦ We do not live in isolation
◦ Personal relationships refer to close connections between people, formed by
emotional bonds and interactions.
Factors that lead to liking &
loving and forming relationships
◦ Proximity
◦ Mere exposure
◦ Similarity
◦ Physical attractiveness
Friendship, Attraction, Love, and
Commitment

ANOTHER
YOU PERSON

THE STATE OF BEING CONNECTED

RELATIONSHIP AREAS: FAMILY,
SOCIAL, AND PERSONAL

FAMILY

SOCIAL PERSONAL
◦ Attraction
◦ Romantic love
◦ Commitment

◦ Types of love:
◦ Passionate Love
◦ Companionate love
◦ Triangular theory of love by Robert Sternberg: intimacy, passion, and compassion
◦ Inauthentic love
◦ Authentic love
Expressing love to people
significant in one’s life
◦ Be thankful
◦ Accept the differences between yourself and others
◦ Learn to communicate to the other persons involved in the relationship
◦ Through communication, you can check out assumptions about your loved ones
rather than decide for them as to how they should think and feel
◦ Be true to yourself and give up living up to others’ expectations.
 LESSON 10:
SOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS IN MIDDLE AND LATE
ADOLESCENTS
◦ Leadership – monitor and control the direction or goals of the community and the
methods used by the members to reach these goals; enforce discipline among members
◦ Forms and models of leadership:
◦ Traditional paradigm:
◦ Dictatorial
◦ Authoritative
◦ Democratic-participative
◦ Laissez-faire (relaxed)
◦ Transactional (give and take)
◦ Non-traditional
◦ Contingency (situational)
◦ Transformational
◦ Side-by-side
◦ Tribal
◦ Group leadership
9 Leadership essentials:
1. Has followers
2. Listen well
3. Combine both empathy and logic
4. Provide clear and compelling communication
5. Have visions
6. Genuinely take care of their people
7. Provide actual modelling & provide structure and organization
8. Are both reflective and action-oriented
9. Are team players and help develop other great leaders
◦ Servant-leadership –Robert Greenleaf; great leader is first
experienced as a servant to others; central to the leader’s greatness
◦ A servant leader:
◦ Listens well
◦ Empathic
◦ Heals
◦ Self-aware
◦ Persuasive
◦ Conceptualizes (dreams great dreams)
◦ Has foresight
◦ Has sense of stewardship
◦ Committed to the growth of people
◦ Builds community
GRIT: major factor for success
PHYSICAL EMOTIONAL
Physical capacity Emotional capacity
to commit and to
GRIT:
to dig major
deep, suffer, factor remain forstrong, success
endure, withstand
pain, and determined,
persevere in engaged, and
pursuit ofPHYSIC
your AL: unwavering
EMOTIONAL: in the
goals
Physic al capac ity to dig
deep, suffer, endure, pursuit
c ommit and toof your
Emotional c apac ity to
remain
withstand pain, and strong, determined,
persevere in pursuit of goals
engaged, and
MENTAL your goals SPIRITUAL
unwavering in the
pursuit of your goals

Mental capacity to Spiritual capacity to

focus intently,
MENTAL : suffer
SPIRITUAL: well, to
Mental c apacity to Spiritual c apacity to
even struggle over
foc us intently, even maintain your faith
suffer well, to maintain
struggle over long your faith and belief, to
long periods
periods ofof time, in pursuit and
remain belief,
c entered and to
clear, and to transc end
of your goals
time, in pursuit of remain
any centered
your goals and clear, and to
transcend any
2 more significant aspects of
GRIT by Stoltz
◦Robustness – how well a person holds up over time, and the
degree to which one is worn down or becomes stronger on the
face of difficulties
◦Quality – achieved when a person consistently and reliably
demonstrates their fullest grit in achieving his or her goals
Activity: for Final exam’s
requirement
◦Take on line the GRIT test (page 136)
◦ https://sasupenn.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_06f6QSOS2pZW9qR
 LESSON 11:
FAMILY STRUCTURES AND LEGACIES
◦ POSITIVE ELEMENTS OF
PARENTAL CARE:
◦ Parents wo are positive
behavioral role models and
transmitters of values
◦ Parents who provide emotional
and psychological support and
encouragement
◦ Parents who monitor their children
but still promote autonomy and
independence
◦ Parents who enable and nurture
open communication among
members of the family
◦ NEGATIVE ELEMENTS OF PARENTAL
TRAITS
◦ Parents who engage in substance
abuse, violence, and inability to
resolve conflicts
◦ Parents who maltreat their children
whether emotionally and physically
◦ Parents who lack attachment to their
children
◦ Parents who lack in monitoring their
children’s behavior and well-being
Diana Baumrind’s 4 parenting
style: high
C
Authoritative parent O Authoritarian parent
Nurturing, Affectionate, Strict, Inflexible, High
N
Sets boundaries, expectations, Punishes
Disciplines through T rather than disciplines,
guidance, Open R “Tiger Mom”
Communication O
L
high WARMTH WARMTH low
C
Permissive parent O Uninvolved parent
Nurturing, Affectionate, N Emotionally detached,
Few inconsistent T Self-absorbed,
boundaries, Takes the R Inconsistent or no
role of “friend” rather O boundaries, Little
than parent” L interaction

low
UNIT 4: CAREER DEVELOPMENT
ALTERNATIVE LEARNING EXPERIENCE
◦ Perform activities in your textbook:
◦ page 159
◦ Page 164
◦ Pages 172-173
◦ Page 183
◦ NOTE: YOU DO NOT NEED TO SCREENSHOT/PRINTSCREEN THE QUESTIONS OR
ANSWERS PER PAGE OF EVERY TEST. ONLY THE RESULT PER TEST AND THE
DISCUSSION QUESTIONS INCLUDED UNDER THE ACTIVITY IS REQUIRED FOR
SUBMISSION.
◦ Make a soft copy of your individual works and submit in our group chat, on or
before March 27, 2020