At the end of the • Explain the

lesson, the connection between

the self and the
students will be
internet
able to: • Identify the ways on
how one presents
the self online
• Describe the impact
of online interactions
to the self
• Explain the ways on
how to establish
boundaries online
 THE INTERNET-DEPENDENT
WORLD
• More than half of • Almost two-thirds of
the world’s
the world uses a
population now has
smartphone. a mobile phone.
• 34% of the
population are active
on social media.
• People act
differently online
and offline.
• People are able to
present themselves
online anyway that
they want to.
• Even if you admit it
or not, we all have a
digital self—a mask
that we put on to
engage the
technological world.
• Physician and Psychoanalyst, Donald
Winnicot, proposed a theory of self
that posited there was a "true self"
that is the core of our personality and
must be nurtured and realized.

• Then there is the "false self" that is

created to protect the "true self" from
insult and danger.

• We all have a "true self" that is

complex and fragile, but ultimately, is
our essence.

• In an attempt to share that self with

the world, we engage our decoy
selves to manage the day-to-day
anxieties and challenges that come
before us.
ELEMENTS OF THE DIGITAL SELF
• It can and does • ONLINE BEHAVIOR
– People assume that
include everything
your online actions are
you say and do under representative of the
your own name. way you are in person.

• ONLINE VOICE
– What do you say? Are
you controversial,
argumentative or
inappropriate?
– Do you add value to
conversations?

• ONLINE PRESENTATION
– The images you choose
to put online, the words
and styles you choose
also say a lot.
 IMPRESSION MANAGEMENT
• INSTRUMENTAL
This is the attempt to
– To gain rewards and
control or influence increase self-esteem
other people’s
perceptions towards us. • EXPRESSIVE
– To be in control of one’s
own behavior and
identity
– To show off one’s
uniqueness
SELF-PROMOTION
─ Actively saying things or taking
action to show one’s
competence
INGRATIATION
─ Actively saying things or taking
action to win the approval or
acceptance of others
EXEMPLIFICATION
─ Involves a strategic self-
sacrifice so that others may
recognize dedication
INTIMIDATION
─ Showing off authority, power,
or the potential to punish in
order to be seen as dangerous
or powerful
SUPPLICATION
─ Exploiting one’s weakness and
shortcomings to receive help or
benefits
 WHEN DOES INTERNET USE
BECOME AN ADVANTAGE?
• ONLINE • SOURCE OF
RELATIONSHIPS INFORMATION
• ONLINE JOBS • RESEARCH
• SHARING
KNOWLEDGE
• CONVENIENT
FOR WORK
 WHEN DOES INTERNET USE
BECOME A DISADVANTAGE?
• OVERSHARING • LACK OF FACE-
• FEAR OF MISSING TO-FACE
OUT MEETING
• TOO PROUD
• BULLYING
• CRUELTY
• HARRASMENT
• INTERNET
CRIMES
 SETTING BOUNDARIES:
SMART SHARING
• Before posting 1. Is this post/story
necessary?
online, we should 2. Is there a real benefit to
consider the this post—is it funny,
following questions: warm hearted,
teachable—or am I just
making noise online
without purpose?
3. Will this seem as funny
in 5, 10, or 15 years?
4. Is this post better suited
for sharing with a small
group or not at all?
5. Is it appropriate? Does
it stay within the
boundaries of our
family values?
 RULES TO FOLLOW
• Here are additional 1. Stick to safer sites.
guidelines for proper 2. Guard your passwords.
sharing of information 3. Limit what you share.
and using the internet. 4. Remember that
anything you put online
or post is there forever,
even if you delete it.
5. Do not be mean or
embarrass other people
online.
6. Always tell if you see
strange or bad online
behavior.
7. Be choosy about your
online friends.
8. Be patient.