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Character Formation:
An Urgency at Home

by Mann Rentoy
 The M
Generation
 Legacy
LOVE OF THE FAMILY
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Who is forming our

children’s conscience?

Parents? Media?
Peers?
School?
Environment?
 Assault on Today’s Children

Video
Violence
Your Games
in Media
Child
Hedonism
(pleasure seeking)

Materialism Pornography
Assault on Today’s Children

Religious Indifference

Divorce Alcoholism

Moral belief
Softness

False Drug
Heroes Addiction
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Understand.
Communicate.
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↑ Information

but

↓ Knowledge
 “Values” According to Modern
Environment

Killing is okay if for

entertainment purposes
only.
 Violent Video Games
 Violence in movies

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“Values” According to Modern
Environment

Virginity is only for

losers.
 “Values” According to Modern
Environment
Suffering has to be avoided at
all cost. Pleasure is supreme.
 “Values” According to Modern
Environment

It’s okay to cheat, for

as long as you don’t get
caught.
 McCann Erickson Youth Studies

... and the McCann Erickson Inter-

generation Study... tell us that the 16.5
million Filipino “youth” below the age of
21 are “technocentric”: spending an
inordinate amount of time in front of
either the computer monitor or the TV
set, surfing the Internet, text messaging
or playing computer and video games.
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Now more than ever,

this work of formation is
urgent and important.
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Understand.
Be patient.
 “Values” According to Modern
Environment

Rock Stars and Athletes

are the role models and
standards of excellence.
Family Influences on the Lifestyle of the Filipino Youth
Grace T. Cruz, Elma P. Laguna and Corazon M. Raymundo

...those who view their parents

to be more permissive are
expected to eventually adopt a
more liberal attitude and thus
are more likely to engage in
risk behaviors as
well. * risky behaviors include smoking, drinking,
drug use, commercial sex and pms.
Family Influences on the Lifestyle of the Filipino Youth
Grace T. Cruz, Elma P. Laguna and Corazon M. Raymundo

“... Adolescents who view their

parents to have a stable marital
union are less likely to engage
in the 4 of the 5 risk behaviors
(except commercial sex).”

* risky behaviors include smoking, drinking, drug

use, commercial sex and pms.
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They have to learn

love
at home.
 McCann Erickson Youth Studies of
2000 and 2005

...This generation of
Filipino youth looks
primarily to celebrities
as their role models.
 McCann Erickson Youth Studies of
2000 and 2005

But even more alarming, the

Inter-generation study showed
that there is a severe loosening
of moral values among adult
Filipinos, and this is reflected in
what young people consider right
and wrong.
 McCann Erickson Youth Studies of
2000 and 2005

As a consequence, about half

of them do not consider as
“wrong” such acts as casual sex,
premarital sex, using a
prostitute, getting drunk,
gambling, hazing, abortion, and
suicide.
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Our greatest Legacy

 Teach the great
character strengths:
•By your example
•By your direction
•By your verbal explanations
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THEY HAVE TO LEARN

LOVE
from us
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Not easy.
But worthwhile!
The greatest thing that
the Father can do is to
love his wife. Children
will then learn LOVE at
home.
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Raise a Generation of
Children with
BiG HEARTS
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IN THE END

Parents
HAVE TO BE THEIR

HEROES!
 Kohlberg’s
Six Levels
of
Moral
Development
 Level I

I don’t want
to get into trouble.
 Level 2

I want a reward.
 Level 3

I want
to please somebody.
 Level 4

I follow the rules.

 Level 5

I am considerate
of other people.
 Level 6

I have a personal
code of behavior and
I follow it.
Level 1: I don’t want to get in trouble.
Level 2: I want a reward.
Level 3: I want to please somebody.
Level 4: I follow the rules.
Level 5: I am considerate of other people.
Level 6: I have a personal code of behavior and I
follow it.
THE DIRTY
THIRTY
1. Bragging
2. Swearing/Vulgar
Words
3. Gossip
4. Angry Words
5. Lies
6. Hurtful Words
7. Judgemental Words
8. Self-Pity Words
9. Discouraging Remarks
10.
Embarrassing/Humiliating
11. Criticism/Fault-Finding
12. Complaining/Whining
13. Rude/Inconsiderate
14. Teasing
15. Manipulation
16. Insincere
Compliments/Flattery
17. Ethnic/Racial Slurs
18. Sexist Comments
19. Age-related Putdowns
20. Being Negative
21. Threats
22. Arguing
23. Interrupting
24. Pasikatan
25. Being a know-it-all
26. Sarcasm
27. Yelling/Screaming
28. Talking Down
29. Exaggerating
30. Blaming and
Accusing
The Thoughtful
Thirty
1. Give encouragement
2. Express Thanks
3. Acknowledge Others
4. Extend Greetings
5. Give a Compliment
6. Congratulate Someone
7. Teach, Give Instruction
8. Offer Words of Comfort
9. Inspire Others
10. Celebrate and Cheer
11. Express Interest
12. Mend Relationships
13. Make Others Laugh
14. Show Faith & Trust
15. Share Good News
16. Praise, Honor
17. Express Caring
18. Show Understanding
19. Give Approval
20. Extend an Invitation
21. Show Courtesy/Respect
22. Give Helpful Advice
23. Apologize
24. Forgive
25. Offer to Help
26. Tell the Truth
27. Point out the Good
28. Use Terms of Affection
29. Supply Needed
Information
30. Communicate Love
Parents should set the tone,
and be conscious of giving
good example to their
children.
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