Confidence Building

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Happy????

No Need to take notes

Happy to take questions as we go
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CONFIDENCE BUILDING
 ACHIEVE YOUR
POTENTIAL

 IMPROVE YOUR
CAREER PROSPECTS

 IMPROVE EVERY
AREA OF YOUR LIFE
WHERE YOU NEED
TO

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CONFIDENCE –meaning
( what ?)

 Firm trust
 Feeling of certainty
 Boldness
 Confidence trick= swindle worked by
gaining a person’s trust
 CONFIDENT= feeling confidence.

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WHAT CONFIDENCE CAN DO!!
( WHAT)

 A person with
confidence helps
himself and others
around him.
 Eg; Doctor - He has
confidence in
himself , his abilities ,
medicines he
administers and he
transmits confidence.

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NEED FOR CONFIDENCE (why )

 You need confidence for attending

 Examinations
 job interviews
 to take up responsibilities (you need tons of
Confidence even to)
 To be successful in life
 Take her for a date
 propose to a girl….CLOSE UP confidence.
 Get married kkkk..kiran
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CONFIDENCE LEVELS (WHY)

 Inadequate learning is correlated with negative emotions

and vice versa.
 Anxiety lessens the ability to learn.
 Once you are confident of your abilities you overcome
this anxiety.

 Confidence levels are very high in some

people and very low in some others.
WHY??
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High levels of confidence
(WHY)
 High levels
 Heredity
 Upbringing
 Culture and
Environment
 Education
 Language &
communication skills
 Knowledge of
the subject

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CONFIDENCE LEVELS (WHY )
High levels High levels

 Experience and
exposure
 Attitude
 Opportunities to exhibit
 Ability to learn
 Age – support
 Circumstances
 Clothes/accessories
 Grooming

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Low confidence levels (WHY)
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 Low levels
  Heredity
 Upbringing
 Culture and environment
 Education (lack of it )
 Language &
communication skills
(lack of it )
 Knowledge of the subject
(lack of it )

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Low confidence levels (WHY)
 Experience and
exposure
 Poor attitude
 Opportunities to exhibit
 Inability to learn
 Age – support
 Circumstances
 Clothes/ accessories
 Grooming

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 OBSERVE CONFIDENCE LEVELS
HIGH
 Initiative and leadership
 Good voice
 Ability to remain calm
 Put others at ease
 Interest in anything new
-experiment
 Quick decision making
 Not easily threatened by
others / new colleague
LOW
 Fidgety – with tie, fingers
 Trembling , quivering
 Walking and talking style
 Slow decision making.
 Easily intimidated by new
colleagues.- jealous
 Avoids challenges and
people
 prefers to be away from
public glare
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Building Confidence

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Building Confidence (HOW )

 SWOT
 STRENGTH
 WEAKNESS
 OPPORTUNITY
 THREAT

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Confidence and Stress

 Studies indicate – when confidence

levels are high, most threats are seen
as opportunity.

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Building Confidence (HOW )

 Identify the signs in you – prepare your own plans/agenda – try

to improve –

 Tell yourself “ I can – I will “

 Check out –focus on your weakness and make it the strongest

factors
 Discuss with friends whom you trust
 Feel free to share your feelings with your teachers /parents
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BUILDING CONFIDENCE (HOW )

 Observe and learn – no blind imitation.

 Take advantage of your strengths –
make them stronger

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BUILDING CONFIDENCE (HOW )

 Break the what if cycle……

 You have the question ..you have the
answer too.

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CHILDREN LEARN WHAT THEY LIVE

 Child who
 Lives with criticism he learns to condemn
 Lives with praise he learns to appreciate
 Lives with hostility he learns to fight
 Lives with tolerance he learns to be patient
 Lives with shame he learns to be guilty
 Lives with ridicule he learns to be shy
 Lives with encouragement he learns confidence

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OBSERVE
I’m not smart. I observe. Millions saw
the apple fall but Newton was the one
who asked why.
 B.Baruch – Behavioural Scientist

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Never say
 Never say
 “ This is the way I am – why should
I Change ??”.
 Do not change for others – change
for yourself and when you feel like.
 Ensure you are not too late…

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OVER CONFIDENCE

 Confidence is good
 Lack of confidence is bad/sad.
 Over confidence can be dangerous.

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SUCCESS
 Success does not mean the absence of
failures;

 It means the attainment of ultimate

objectives.

 It means winning the war, not every battle.

 EDWIN C BLISS

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TAKE PRIDE
 Take pride in
 yourself
 Your parents and culture
 Your educational institution /
organization.
 Your country

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TAKE PRIDE

 IIMs and Harward shot to fame because

of their products /students.
 Your initiative and achievements can
make Your college/institution equally
famous.

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Building Confidence

Tell yourself “ I can – I will “

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Building Confidence

 YOU CAN – YOU WILL

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 Building Confidence
ARE YOU CONFIDENT NOW ???

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SELF ESTEEM

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SELF ESTEEM

 Individuals’ degree of liking or disliking

for themselves
Stephen Robbins

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SELF ESTEEM

Feel good – think and do things which

Make you feel good and proud.

“ I am capable – I have the caliber

I just got to work a bit harder “.

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SELF ESTEEM
 There is direct relationship between
people’s feelings and their productivity.
 High self esteem is evident in respect
for one’s self, others, property, law,
parents and one’s country
The reverse is also true.

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How Self-Esteem Influences Your Behavior

 Self Esteem has  Powerful influence on

 behavior
 at work
 in personal life
 Healthy self-esteem is
 less vulnerable to negative views of others
 more tolerant and respectful of others
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WHAT IT DOES
(SELF ESTEEM )

 Builds strong conviction

 Creates willingness to accept responsibility
 Leads to better relationships and fulfilling lives
 Makes you more sensitive to others needs and
develop a caring attitude
 Makes you self-motivated and ambitious
 Makes you open to new opportunities and
challenges
 Improves performance
 Give and receive criticism and compliments
tactfully and easily.
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Locus of Control 

 Internal locus of control

 Belief that one is largely responsible for what happens
 External locus of control
 Belief that life is almost totally controlled by outside
forces
 Success is luck
 Often rely on approval from others
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Characteristics
 Low self esteem
 Tendency toward
 External locus of control
 Self-destructive behaviors
 Poor human relations skills
 Failure syndrome
 Trouble with relationships 
 Being less productive
 High self esteem
 Future oriented
 Better able to cope with life’s
challenges
 Feel emotions without letting
them affect behavior in a
negative way
 Less likely to take things
personally
 Accept people as unique,
talented individuals
 Exhibit self-confident behaviors
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Self Esteem in People
High Low
 Talk about ideas  Talk about people
 Caring attitude  Critical attitude
 Respects authority  Rebels against
 Respects others  Looks down on others
 Assertive  Aggressive
 Willing to learn  Know it all
 Disciplined  Distorted sense of freedom
 Enjoys decency  Enjoys vulgarity
 Giver  Taker

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Low Self Esteem

 1. Executive and the phone……

– OR
 2.King and the blind sage …..
 What is the message?????

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What is the message?????

 Why pretend?
 What are we trying to prove?
 What do we want to accomplish?
 Why do we need to lie ?
 Why look for feelings of false importance
 MORAL OF THE STORY…..
 All this comes from insecurity and poor
self-esteem

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SELF ESTEEM
 SELF ESTEEM - does not mean
having a big ego.
 Unless we possess the components of
self-esteem, we cannot share it with
others.
 We need to first examine and put
ourselves in order.

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STEPS TO BUILDING A POSITIVE SELF
ESTEEM
 Read life stories of people who have turned
 negative into a positive
 Adversity to Advantage
 Stumbling blocks into stepping stones.
 Stay away from negative influence
 Be creative and find ways to turn your
weakness into strengths.
 Practice patience; persevere even if the
results are not visible.

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STEPS TO BUILDING A POSITIVE SELF
ESTEEM
 Beethoven ( best music composer )
was deaf
 Milton ( beautiful poems on nature )
Was blind
 Franklin Roosevelt ( US President )
Served from a wheel chair.

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Have confidence to build
BUILDIG POSITIVE SELF ESTEEM
 TheWilma Rudolph Story…..
 Moral of the story!!!.
1) Successful people do it in spite of
Not in the absence of problems
2) Turn adversity into opportunity

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EDUCATION

 Education teaches us what we can do and

also teaches us what we cannot do.
 The only limitations you can have are self
imposed. Do not let education put limitations
on you.
 EG: BUMBLE BEE AND ITS WINGS.

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ROLE MODELS
A strong role model or mentor could be
a parent, relative or teacher who is held
in high regard.
 Children look upto adults in positions of
influence.
 Adults look to supervisors and
managers as role models.

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OPPORTUNITIES

 Do not let opportunity slip out of hand.

 BE ALERT
 Look out and keep looking out for
opportunities.

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WINNERS

 Winners/successful people do not do

different things – they do things
differently.
 ALFRED NOBEL AND WHAT MADE
HIM THINK.

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 THANKS &WELCOME

 THANKS FOR YOUR COOPERATION

 WELCOME -QUESTIONS

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