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Psychiatry Consultant Lecturer of Psychiatry, Ain Shams University Associate member of International Federation of Psychiatric Epidemiology (IFPE)
Is Marriage in Danger?
Some studies on marriage and divorce in the United States show that about 50% people marrying for the first time end up divorced while many who stayed married are trapped in unhappy marriages. So what goes wrong in these marriages? Frequent arguments are definitely a contributing factor. Still, these disagreements are perfectly normal. Its how one addresses and manages the conflicts that will determine the success of ones marriage.
In any group of people there are different agendas, And different agendas mean conflict. Now comes the important part. A group is any number more than one! So a marriage is a group. That means two different agendas. And that means conflict.
Psychiatric Disorders
Dementia. Substance-Related Disorders. Schizophrenia and Other Psychotic Disorders. Affective Disorders. Anxiety Disorders. Sexual Disorders. Eating Disorders. Sleep Disorders. Impulse Control Disorders. Personality Disorders. WMH Related Disorders. Childhood Psychiatric Disorders.
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First year First baby issues Career Changes Lifetime Decisions A teenager on board Mid-life crisis Menopause and andropause Empty home
Useful Tips
If these sound all too familiar in your marriage, things are certainly not all that well between the two of you. You need to act before the bitterness, resentment and anger get the better of you. Here are some measures to manage your conflicts constructively: Time out When the argument gets out of hand, stop it. Leave each other alone for about an hour or two to cool down. If its really heated, its best not to talk to each other for a day or two. When both partners have calmed down, they can attempt to discuss it reasonably and fairly. Think it through Use the time-out period to thoroughly think about the cause of the argument. What was most upsetting about it? Was it a fair fight? Was it necessary to have that big shouting match? Return to the Scene Once both partners have calmed down considerably, they should face each other and try to talk things over evenly. It may be useful to have a full and open discussion about the problem and understand each others point of view before attempting to solve that problem. Understand each others Needs Ask what is truly bothering your spouse. Listen carefully to what he or she has to say and try your best to understand his or her concerns. Then express your own concerns so that your spouse too knows what youre upset about. Mutual understanding of each others needs, concerns and problems is the first step to resolving your conflicts. Reach a Compromise Think of ways to resolve the problems. Brainstorm for ideas, strategies and solutions if need be. Let the ideas flow first no interruptions and no criticisms. Write down the solutions, then shortlist some of them. There must be a solution agreeable to both partners. Agree on what each partner will do to carry out the solution. Then set a time to follow up on how things are progressing. Forgive and Forget Willingness to forgive and forget is a big step in managing a serious conflict. Whats done is done and most times, its best to let it go. Dont bring it back in future arguments. It serves no purpose and only worsens the situation. Learn from past problems and mistakes and strive not to repeat them.
If you are married there is one thing that is certain: there will be conflict. It is impossible to live with someone day after day, for years on end without having some type of conflict. One of the keys to marital success is adopting a view that conflict is good !What?! Yes, conflict is good! Conflict always presents an opportunity for couples to work through issues and come out stronger on the other end. Dont get me wrong, Im not advocating you start picking fights with your spouse for fun, but taking the fear out of conflict goes a long way in helping couples confront their issues. Some of you may be reading this getting ready to bounce because you are not married and dont feel this will apply to youwaitif you are ever even thinking about getting married some day, this information will be useful for you as you begin surveying the land for potential mates.
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