ANALIZA RELAIEI DE CUPLU

Cteva ntrebari pe care sa vi le adresai:

1. Facei cel puin un pas inapoi si v rog s privesi situatia obiectiv. Cum ai contribuit la problemele
relatiei?
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2. Avei tendina s repetai aceleasi greseli sau sa alegei parteneri nepotriviti ?
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3. Analizai cum reactionai la stres si cum negociai conflictele si incertitudinile dvs.. Ai putea sa o
facei mai constructiv?
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4. Intreabai-v daca acceptai oamenii pentru ceea ce sunt, nu pentru ceea ce ar putea sau ar trebui
sa fie.
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5. Intrai intr-o relatie cu speranta c celalalt se va schimba sau il/o iubesti suficient pentru ceea ce
este?
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6.De ce anume nu gsii persoana potrivita?
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7.Daca ai gasit-o/ o vei gsi de ce va indoii ca este cea (cel) cu care sa dorii s v petrecei restul
vietii?
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8.De ce nu suntei multumit() de nici un (o) partener()?

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9.Care sunt miturile despre cum este necesar sa functioneze o relaie.
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10. Care sunt temerile dvs. ce le avei cu privire la o relatie?
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11.Avei o relatie armonioasa cu dvs?
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12. Ce tipare/ mesaje v-au transmis parintii?
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13. Descriei n cteva cuvinte relaia prinilor dvs.
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14. Vorbii cu usurinta despre dvs., despre ceea ce simtii, despre ceea ce v dorii, despre nevoile
personale, despre lucrurile cu care nu suntei de acord?
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15. V este teama sa iubii, sa v asumai responsabilitati, sa v luai angajamente?
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16. Cnd suntei ntr-o relaie de cuplu, avei timp pentru celalalt, sa il ascultai, sa-i impartasii, sa
comunicai deschis?
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17. Intr-o relatie constienta v dai seama ca si dvs. e bine sa fii /devenii partenerul potrivit !
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18. De ce facei aceleasi alegeri de fiecare data?
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19.De ce v implicai in relatii cu persoane care se aseamana si ajung mereu in acelasi punct?
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20.Ce ateptri avei de la partener()?
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21 . Alegerea unui partener este n funcie de nevoile, miturile familiei, s plac familiei de origine?
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22.Care au fost cele mai bune momente ale relatiei?
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23.Dar cele mai rele?
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24.Care au fost trasaturile pe care le-ai admirat la fostul partener?
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25.Dar cele care nu v-au plcut?
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26.Cum ati contribuit fiecare dintre voi la agravarea problemelor?

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27.Care credei ca sunt cele mai importante greseli pe care le-a facut fostul partener?
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28.Care sunt cele mai mari greseli facute de dvs?
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29.Care sunt lucrurile pe care n-ai avut niciodata sansa s le spunei?
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30.Pentru ce ai vrea s multumii, pentru ce ai vrea s-i cerai iertare si pentru ce ai dori s v
ierte?
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31. Ct a durat cea ma lung relaie a dvs.? Care credei c a fost motivul?
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32. Ct a durat cea mai scurt relaie a dvs.? Ce s-a ntmplat?
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33. Pentru a pstra / menine relaia de cuplu ai renunat la nevoile personale?
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34. n relaia de cuplu simeai nevoia de a manifesta control?
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35. In relaia de cuplu simii nevoia de a-l transfoma pe partener n ceva ideal?
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36. Ce v-a atras/ v atrage cel mai mult la partener(a)?
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37. Ce ai nvat din relaiile trecute?
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38. Ce denumire/ titlu ati da fostei (ulimei) relaii de cuplu?
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39. Mai este cineva din familie care au avut un traseu aproximativ asemnator cu privire la relaii?
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40.O scurt descriere a dvs. cum erai/ suntei n relaia de cuplu. Notai cteva caracteristici.
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41. Construii-v acum realitatea: Creionai o mic istorioar despre cum dorii/ vedei relaia dvs. de
cuplu
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