Dr.(Mrs.

) Syeda Lateef Unnisa Begum NIKAH AUR USKI ZIMMEDAARIYAN

KHUTBA HAJJA TUL WIDA

NIKAH AUR USKI ZIMMEDAARIYAN

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Dr.(Mrs.) Syeda Lateef Unnisa Begum

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1. KHUTBA HAJJA-TUL-WIDA
(Makhuz Al-Raheeq ul Makhtum)
Logo! Meri baat sunlo! Kyun ki main nahi janta galiban apne is sal k
baad is muqam par tumse kabhi na mil sakunga.
Tumhara khun tumhara mal ek dusre par usi tarah haram hai jistarah
aj k din ki, ravan mahine ki aur maujuda shaher ki hurmat hai. Sunlo!
Jahiliat ki har chiz mere paon tale raond di gayi. Jahiliat k khun bhi
khatam kardiye gaye. Aur hamare khun mein se pehla khun jise main
khatam kar raha hun voh Rabia bin Haris k bete ka khun hai…. Yeh
bachcha Banu Saad mein dudh piraha tha k unhin ayyam mein qabil-e-
Huzial ne use qatal kardiya… aur jahiliat ka sud khatam kardiya gaya, aur
hamare sud mein se pehla sud jise main khatam karraha hun voh Abbas
Bin Abdul Mutllib ka sud hai. Ab yeh sara ka sara sud khatam hai.
Haan! Aurton k bare mein Allah se daro kyun k tumne unhein Allah ki
amanat k saath liya hai aur Allah k kalmein k zariye halal kiya hai. Un
par tumhara huq yeh hai k voh tumhare bistar par kisi aise shukhs ko na
ane dein jo tumhein gavara nahi. Agar voh aisa karein to tum unhein mar
sakte ho lekin sakht mar na marna aur tumpar unka huq yeh hai k tum
unhein maruf k saath khilao aur pehnao. Aur main tum mein aisi chiz
chode jaraha hun k agar tum ne usey mazbuti se pakad rakha to us k baad
hargiz gumrah na honge aur voh hai Allah ki kitab.
Logo! yaad rakho mere baad koyi nabi nahi aur tumhare baad koyi ummat
nahi. Lehaza apne Rabb ki ibadat karna, panch waqt ki namaz padhna,
ramzan k roze rakhna, khushi khushi apne mal ki zakat dena, apne Rabb k
ghar ka Hajj karna aur apne hukumeranon ki ita’at karna. Aisa karoge to
apne Rabb ki jannat mein dakhil honge. Aur tumse mere muta’alliq puchha
jane wala hai. To tum log kya kahoge. Sahaba ne kaha, hum shahadat dete
hain k Ap (saw) ne tabligh kardi, paigam puhancha diya aur khair khahi ka
huq ada farmadiya. Yeh sunkar Ap (saw) ne angusht-e-shahadat ko asman
ki taraf uthaya aur logon ki taraf uthate hue teen bar farmaya, Aye Allah
gavah rah. Ap (saw) k irshadat ko Rabeea Bin Khalaf (R.A) apni buland
avaz se logon tak puhancha rahe thai. Jab Ap (saw) khutbe se farigh
hochuke tho Allah azz-o-jal ne ayat nazil farmayi.
{5:3}﴾ 
          ﴿
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“Aaj Mein ne tumhare liye tumhara deen mukammil kardiya aur tum par
apni nemat puri kardi aur tumhare liye Islam ko bahaisiyat-e-deen pasand
karlia.” (5:3)
Aaj yaumun nahar tha. Yani Zil-hajja ki das tariq thi. Nabi Kareem (saw)
ne aj bhi din chadhe (chasht k waqt) ek khutba irshad farmaya tha. khutbe k
waqt Ap (saw) khachar par sawar thai. Aur Hazarat Ali (R.A) Ap (saw) k
irshadat sahaba ko sunarahe thai. Sahaba ikram kuch baithe aur kuch khade
thai. Ap (saw) ne aj k khutbe mein hi kal ki kayi batein duhrayien. Sahih
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Bukhari aur Sahih Muslim mein Hazrat Abu Bakar (R.A) ka yeh bayan
marvi hai k Nabi Kareem (saw) ne hamein youm-un-nahar (10 zilhajja) ko
khutba diya. Farmaya zamana ghhum phirkar apni usi din ki haiyyat per
pahunch gaya hai, jis din Allah ne asman aur zamin ko paida kiya tha. Sal
bara mahine ka hai. jin mein se char mahine hurmat wale hain. Teen pe
darpe, yani, Zeeqada aur Zilhajja aur Muharram aur ek Rajjab -muzer jo
Jama diul-akhir aur Shaban k darmiyan hai. Ap (saw) ne yeh bhi farmaya
yeh konsa mahina hai? Humne kaha: Allah aur us k Rasul (saw) behtar
jante hain. Is par Ap (saw) khamush rahe yahan tak k humne samjha k Ap
(saw) iska koyi aur nam rakhenge. Lekin phir Ap (saw) ne farmaya k yeh
Zilhajja nahi hai? Humne kaha kyun nahi: Ap (saw) ne farmaya yeh konsa
sheher hai? Humne kaha Allah Ta’ala aur us k Rasul (saw) behtar jante
hain. Ispar Ap (saw) khamush rahe, yahan tak k humne samjha k Ap (saw)
iska koyi aur nam rakhenge magar Ap(saw) ne farmaya kya yeh Balda
(Makkah) nahi hai? Humne kaha kyun nahi? Ap (saw) ne farmaya achcha
toh yeh din konsa hai? Humne kaha Allah aur us k Rasul (saw) behtar jante
hain. Is par Ap (saw) khamush rahe , yahan tak k humne samjha Ap (saw)
uska koyi aur nam rakhenge magar Ap (saw) ne farmaya kya yeh youm-
un-nahar (qurbani ka din, yani10 zil hajja) nahi hai? Humne kaha kyun
nahi? Ap (saw) ne farmaya achcha to suno k tumhara khun, tumhara mal
aur tumari abru ek dusre par aise hi haram hai jaise tumhare is shaher aur
tumhare is mahine mein tumhare aj k din ki hurmat hai.
Aur tum log buhat jald apne Rabb se miloge aur voh tumse tumhare amal
k mut’aliq puchega, lehaza dekho! Mere baad palat kar gumrah na hojana
k apas mein ek dusre ki gardane marne lago. Batao, kya mein ne tabligh
kardi? Ap (saw) ne farmay Allah ! gawah reh…….. Jo shaks Maujud hai
voh ghair maujud tak (meri batien) puhancha de kyun k baaz voh afrad
jin tak yeh batein puhanchayi jAyegi voh baz (maujuda) sune walon se
kahi zyada un baton k daro-bast ko samjh sakinge.
Ek rivayat mein hai k Ap (saw) ne is khutbe mein yeh bhi farmaya: Yaad
rakho koyi bhi jurm karne wala apne siva kisi aur par jurm nahi karta.
(yani is jurm ki padash mein koyi aur nahi bal k khud mujrim hi pakda
jAyega). Yaad rakho! Koyi jurum karne wala apne bete per ya koyi beta
apne bap par jurm nahi karta (yani bap k jurm mein bete ko ya bete k
jurm mein bap ko nahi pakda jAyega). Yaad rakho! Shaitan mayus ho
chuka hai k ab tumare is shaher mein kabhi bhi iski puja ki jaye, lekin
apne jin amal ko tum log haqir samjhte ho tho inmein uski ita’at ki jayegi
aur voh us se razi hoga.
2. NIKAH AUR US K ZIMMEDARIYAN
Aaj kal musalman muashre ki jo
Har musalman mard-o-aurat ko nikah karna hai. Nikah se Mard/aurat
par kya zimmedariyan ayed (lazim) hoti hai. Aulad k nikah ki babat walid
ki kya zimmedariyan hain uska tafsili bayan “Mahnama dar-us-salam:
zere sarparasti Moulana Mufti Fuzail-ur-Rehman Hilal Osmani” k mahe

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October 2004 k khususi shumare “shadi Mubarak” se liyaga hai.

Har shakhs apne khandan ka qawwam (zimmdar) banaydiya gaya hai.
(tafsilat dekhiyeh: Khitab No 1) Ap par yeh badi bhari zimmedari hai k ap
deeni lehaz se ma’asharati lehaz se ma’ashi taur par samaji taur par apne
khandan ko Allah k bataye hue ahkam (dastur -e hayat, jo Qurani ehkam
hain ) par chalate hue zindagi ka safar tai karein to ap k liye dono jahan ki
sa’adaton ka Allah wada karta hai. Agar ap filwaqt shadi shuda na hon to bhi
in shaa Allah Ta’ala anqarib apko yeh sunnat ada karne hi hai. To phir
dekhiye k ap par Islami taur se kya kya zimmedariyan ayad hoti hain.
2.1 Nikah k khutbe mein padhi jane wali ayatein neeche batayi gayein hain.

              ﴿(i)

} {﴾               
“ Aye logo! Apne Rabb se daro. Us ka taqwa ekhtiyar karo. (Voh
tumhara Rabb tumpar shafeeq o meherban hai. Uski narazgi se daro bhi
aur Us k ehsanat ki wajeh se Us se mohabbat bhi karo). Jisne tumko ek
jaan se paida kiya aur usi se uska joda banaya aur un dono se buhat se
mard wa aurat phaila diye. Aur us Rabb se daro jiska wasta dekar tum ek
dusre se apna huqq mangte ho aur rishta wa qarabat k ta’alluqat bigadne
se parhez karo. Yaqin jano Allah tum per nigrani kar raha hai.” (4:1)
(Miyan, biwi ki tanhaiyon mein bhi Allah unki nigrani kar raha hai).
Quran -e Majid ki dusri ayat jo nikah k mauqe par padhi jati hai voh
choute sipare mein (3:102).
} {﴾             ﴿(ii)
“Aye logo jo eman laye ho! Allah se daro, jaisa k darne ka huq hai.
Tumko maut na aye magar is haal mein k tum muslim ho.”
Voh hasti jiski har haal mein hum par nazar hai jo hamare dil k ehsasat
qayalat ko bhi janta hai is se har haal mein insan darta rahe. Us k samne
javab dahi ki fikar rahe. Koyi jane ya na jane , koyi dekhe ya na dekhe magar
Allah Ta’ala har chiz ko janta hai. Marte dam tak ek saheb e eman Allah ki
farman baradari ka dam bharta rahe. Uska ita’at guzar rahe, Uska jo huq usne
muqarrar kiya hai usko ada kare, huquq ki adAyegi mein kotahi na kare.
Quran ki teesri ayat jo nikah k mauqe per padhi jati hai voh Surah
Ahzab mein hai.
   {       ﴿(iii&iv)

}33:70,71{﴾            
“Aye eman walo! Allah se darte raho, aur seedhi baat kiya karo. Allah
tumhare amal durst kardega aur tumhare qusuron se dar guzar

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farmayaega”. (33:70) “Jo (shakhs) bhi Allah aur Us k Rasul(saw) ki

tabedari (ita’at) kare usne badi kamiyabi hasil ki.” (33:71)
Allah k samne javab dahi ka ehsas wa qiyal rahe. Uski narazgi se insan darta
rahe. Tumhari baat theek theek aur bilkul seedhi honi chahiye. Us mein
herpher nahi honi chahiye. Jo baat kaho mazbuti k saath kaho. Iswaqt jo qaol
-o-qarar aur ejaab o qubul ho raha hai yeh pokhta ahad hai. Sachche dil se is
ahad ka pass rakhna hoga. Agar tumne sidhi aur theek baat karne ki adat
banali to Allah Ta’ala tumhare aamaal durust farmadega. Sachai neki ki taraf
lejati hai aur neki jannat ki taraf. Sidhi sachchi baat karne wala duniya mein
qabile e etemad hota hai aur uska yeh raviyya kamiyabi ka zariya banjata hai.
Sidhi aur sahih rah par chalne wale se kotahi hojaye to uspar girift na hogi.
Allah Ta’ala se ummid hai k Voh darguzar se kaam lega.
Allah Ta’ala Khaliq hai, Uski ita’at karna bande par Allah ka huq hai. ‫﴿اَلَا لہ الْخَلْق‬
﴾‫ وَالْاَمْر‬jisne paida kiya uska huq hai k hukum bhi Uska chale. Jo Rasul (saw) ki
ita’at ki usne darhuqiqat Allah ki farmanbardari ki duniya aur akhirat ki huqiqi
kamiyabi iss ita’at k raste par chalne mein hai. Yeh aisa zabta e zindagi hai k
duniya mein insan ki zindagi ko sanvarta hai aur akhirat mein ajr wa savab pakar
insan sarfaraz hota hai.
Nikah mein padhe jane wali upar ki teenon ayaton mein jo baat mushtarik
hai voh hai taqwa.
Taqwa kya chiz hai? Taqwa ka matlab yeh hai k ek din Ayega jab insan
ko Allah k samne duniya mein kiye hue apne amal ka hisab dena hoga
…… aur agar kisi ki huq talfi ki hai to ek ek huq talfi ka bhugtan
bhugatna padega. Yahi chiz hai jo insan k dil par tanhayion mein bhi
pehra bithati hai. Jahan ise koyi aur dekhne wala nahi hota. Allah k Nabi
(saw) yeh chahte hain k jab mard aur aurat zindagi k safar mein ek dusre
k sathi banein to safar shuru karne se pehle voh apne dilon par yeh gaibi
pahra bitaye taa k unki rifaqat payedar ho. Taqwe k saye mein pali hui
voh payedar mohabbat jismein ek dusre ki wafadari, isaar aur khairkhahi
k jazbat hon, jism se guzar ka qalb wa ruh ki gehraiyon tak ragon mein
khun ki tarha sarayiat karjaye.
Miyan Biwi k khushgavar ta’aluqat aur ek dusre k huquq ki theek theek
adayegi isi gaibi pehre (taqwa) k bagair mumkin nahi. Miyan Biwi ka
rishta buhhat nazuk hota hai, Dono ek dusre k razdar hote hain jo kuch
andar hai voh ek dusre k samne khul kar baher ajata hai. Admi dusre k
samne apne asli chehre par naqli chehra chadha sakta hai aur har ek se
khush akhlaqi ka izhar kar sakta hai. Agar us k andar yeh taqwa na ho to
dono ek dusre ka jeena dubhar kar sakte hain. Ek dusre se jo taklif
puhanchti hai us ka izala duniya ka koyi dusra qanun nahi karsakta. Baz
auqat ek dusre se aisi aisi shikayatein hoti hain jinko apne kisi qaribi
rishtedar k samne bhi bayan nahi kiya ja sakta. Us ka ilaj is k siva koyi
nahi hai k in dono mein ehsas rahe k voh ek dusre k liye amanat hain aur
unhein us k liye Allah k samne javab dahi karni hai. Yehi voh hikmat aur

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maslihat hai jiski wajeh se Allah k Rasool (saw) ne is ahem mauqe k liye
Quran -e- Majeed ki in ayaton ka intekhab farmaya hai”.
In ayaton k baad ek mashhur Hadis padhi jati hai ismein Ap (saw) ne
irshad farmaya k
‘Nikah meri sunnat aur mera tariqa hai. ’‘‫سنَّتِ ْي‬ ُ ‫“النّكَا ُح مِ ْن‬
Ab zaher hai k jo Allah k Rasul (saw) ki sunnat hogi uska rutba ibadat ka hoga.
(isilye nikah k liye Rasul (S.A) k bataye tariqe par intekhab karo). Ek aur hadis
bhi aksar is mauqe par bayan ki jati hai aur voh bhi badi ahem hai. Ismein Ap
(saw) ne irshad farmaya
‘‘‫ارُك ْم ٔلَٔ ْهلِ ِه‬ ٍ ِ ِ ِ‫’’ ٔأَ ْكمل املُوِمن‬
ُ َٔ‫ارُك ْم خي‬
ُ َٔ‫سنُ ُه ْم ُخلًُقا وخي‬
َٔ ‫َٔح‬
ْ ‫ْي ا ْْئَاانً ٔا‬
َْٔ ٔ ُ َٔ
“Sabse kamil eman wala voh hai jis k akhlaq achche hon. Aur tum mein
behtarin insan voh hai jo apne ghar walon k saath achcha ho”. (mishkat
baab ishrat-unnisa). Yani eman ka sab se kamil miyar husn-e-akhlaq hai.
Jis k akhlaq achche na hon uska eman bhi mukammil nahi hai. Aur
achche akhlaq wala kaun samjha jAyega? Achche akhlaq wala voh
samjha jayega jo apne gharwalon k saath achcha ho. Achche akhlaq ka
miyar yeh nahi hai k admi ghar se bahar doston ki majlis mein aur aam
logon k samne khush akhlaq aur hasmuck nazar ata ho lekin ghar walon k
saath bud suluki karta ho.
Aam taur par khutbe k yeh alfaz aur un ka maqsad shadi k hungamon
mein gum ho kar reh jata hai. Inhein bhi tawajjeh k saath suna jata hai.
Agar nikah ki mehfil mein loudspeaker ka intezam na ho toh aksar log
sun bhi nahi sakte. Aur yeh khutbe k waqt bhi batein karte rehte hain.
Nikah ki taqrib mein loudspeakr ka intezam hona chahiye ta k khutba aur
eejab-wa-qubul jo puri taqrib ki asal ruh hai voh pur sukun aur ba-asar
tariqe se anjam pasake aur hazerin khutba-e-nikah ko taqaddus ki fiza
mein sunein aur asal baat toh yeh hai k khutba sirf sunna hi nahi bal k ise
samajhna chahiye aur nikah padhane wale khutba-e-nikah ka matlab aur
maqsad bayan karne ka ehtemam karein, ta k Arabi na jannewale is k
mafhum aur muddua ko jan sakein.
Husne muasherat aur ghar walon k saath behtarin suluk ka miyari namuna
hamein Hazrat Mohammed (saw) ki zindagi mein nazar ata hai. Ap jis
tarah baherwalon k saath ache thai, narm dil aur humdard thai isi tarah
gharwalon k saath bhi achche thai. Baz Hadison se malum hota hai k
Nabi (saw) jab ghar mein tashrief laate thai toh sab k saath is tarah ghul
mil jate thai jaise Ap in hi mein se ek hain. Alag thalag nahi rehte thai.
Apne ghar mein bhi rehmat ban kar ate thai. Gharwalon k saath hanste
bolte thai. In ki baton mein hissa lete thai. Ghar k kamon mein unka haath
batate thai. Jayez hud tak gharwalon ki dildari farmate thai. In k jazbaat
wa ehsasat ka khiyal rakhte thai.
“Ek martaba Hazrat Ayesha(RA) ne farmaya ki ‘Ya Rasul Allah! Main
habshiyon ka tamasha dekhna chahti hun. Ap ne unko apne kandhey k

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piche khada karliya aur us waqt tak khade rahe jab tak hazrat Ayesha
(RA) ne khud nahi kaha k bus ya Rasul Allah mein ne dekhliya”. Seerat-
un-Nabi (saw) ki kitabon ko padne se ap(saw) ki shadi shuda pyar bhari
zindagi k behtarin namone ap k haath lageinge.
Ek martaba kisi maidan mein Ap (saw) ne hazrat Ayesha k saath dawd
lagayi. Hazrat Ayesha jeet gayein. Dusri martaba phir aisa hi ittefaq hua
toh Ap (saw) jeet gaye. Ap(saw) ne farmaya k yeh us din ka badla hogaya
ek martaba tum jeet gayein ek martaba hum jeet gaye.Miyan biwi k
darmiyan kaise lateef (nazuk) ehsasat hote hain is ka andaza Nabi (saw) k
ek waqea se hota hai. Ap (saw) ne Hazrat Ayesha (Ra) ko mukhatib karte
hue farmaya k “Aye Ayesha! Jab tum hum se naraz hoti ho hum samajh
jate hain. Us waqt tum kahti ho Rabb-e-Ibrahim ki qasam aur jab khush
hoti ho toh kahti ho Rabb-e-Mohammed (saw) ki qasam. Is se hum samajh
jate hain k tum naraz ho ya k hush ho. Hazrat Ayesha ne muskura kar arz
kiya ya Rasul Allah(saw) bas apka nam hi toh gayab karti hun”.
2.3 Nikah Mein Meher Ki Haisiyat Aur Ahmiyat:
Nikah jo aurat aur mard k darmiyan ek baizzat khudai muaheda hai us ka
ek lazmi juz apni sharik-e-hayat k liye lazmi tohfa hai aur is ka maqsad
azdwaji ta’aluq k sharf ka izhar hai k yeh miyan biwi ka jo ta’aluq
qAyem hua hai, ek muhteram aur qabil-e-qadar rishta hai.
Meher ka maqsad yeh b hai k shouhar yehsamajh le k anewali zindagi
mein is ko apne ahl wa ayal ki mali kifalat karni hai aur in k masarif ka
voh zimmedar hai.
Meher ka maqsad yeh bhi hai k nikah k ta’aluq se sanjida aur is k
ahmiyat malum hojaye. Meher apni sharik-e-hayat k liye ulfat aur
yaganeyat ka izhar hai.
Meher mohabbat ki kalid (kunji) hai. Nikah ki azmat ki izhar hai.
Yeh muaweza aur qimat nahi hai. Qimat de kar hasil ki hui chiz mumluk
hosakti hai mahbub nahi hosakti.
Meher ki sharayi taur par itni ehmiyat hai k agar miyan biwi dono
milkar isko saqit (khatam) karna chahein aur yeh taye karlein k hum na
leinge aur na deinge toh aisa nahi karsakte. Aurat ka apni khushi se muaf
kardena dusri baat hai k voh apna huq muaf karsakti hai.
“Jild duwwam safa 16 Hidayatul-mujtahed” mein hai k
“Is haisiyat se k zaujein ka is k isqat par (yani khatam karne par) razi
hojana k hum na leingey na deingey jayez nahi.
Meher ibadat k mushabeh hai. Aisa meher jo nikah k fouri baad ek
musht ada kiya jata hai ise haraf-e-aiyn k saath Meher-e-Muajjil kahte
hain. Yeh lafz ujlat se makhuz hai jis k mani jaldi hai. Behtar aur afzal
yehi hai k pura meher ya iska kuch hisa fouran ada kardiya jaye. Lekin
agar dono meinyehh taye pajaye k meher baad meinada kiya jayega toh
isko Meher-e-Gair Muajjil bhi kahte hain. Behtar hai k gair muajjil meher
jab bhi biwi talab kare meher de diya jaye aur agar bad mein dene wala
meher-e-muajjal (haraf hamza k saath) ho jis mein koyi ajal yani muddat

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muqarar ho toh iski muddat bayan kardi jaye maslan che(6)mah mein ya
ek saal mein meher ada kardiya jaye. Isko dain-e meher kaha jata hai.
Yeh aisa fariza hai jis ko lazmi taur par jald se jald ada karna chahiye.
Shouhar ka inteqal hojaye toh is k tarke mein se dain-e-meher ada karna
chahiye. Meher k muamle mein laparwayi ya bagair ada kiye chod kar
marjana itni buri baat hai k Nabi(saw) ne aise shaqs ki namaz-e janaza
padhne se inkar farmaya hai. Shariyat ne meher ki kam se kam meqhdar
muqarrar kardi hai. Aur is se zyada kitna meher ho yeh shohar ki haisiyat
aur is ki isteta’at par chod diya gaya hai. Meher ki kam se kam meqhdar
dus dirham hai.
Ek Hadis-e-Nabvi (saw) meinHazrat Jaber bin Abdullah se riwayat hai k
Nabi (saw) ne farmaya ‘‘‫’’الرهم دون رشعة درامه‬
Yani ‘meher dus dirham se kam na ho.’ Ek dirham ka wazan 3+1/2
mashe chandi k barabar hai. Dus dirham, 2 tole 7 masha chandi banti
hai. Gram k hisab se attayis gram che sau sattar (28gm 670 mg). Asal
mein meher shouhar ki haisiyat aur aurat k miyar zindagi dono k lehaz
se itna hona chahiye jisko shohar asani se ada karsake. Meher k muamle
mein bhi Islami shariyat ne dusre muamelat ki tarah aitedal aur tawazun
ka aisa rasta ekhtiyar kiya hai k meher na toh bahut mamuli ho aur na
itna ziyada ho k isko ada na kiya jasake. Ausat darje k logon k liye
Meher-e-fatimi yani Hazrat Fatima binte Rasul Allah (saw) ka meher
bhi munsib meher malum hota hai. Meher-e Fatimi ki meqhdar panch
sou Dirham hai jo ek sau ektis tola panch mashe(131 tola 5 mashe)
chandi k barabar hai aur gram k hisab se ek kilo panch sau taintis gram
ek sau saat milligram bante hain.(1kg 533gm 160 mg). Meher kisi bhi
maliyat wali chiz ko muqarar kiya jasakta hai jaise zamin, jayedad,
makan, sona, chandi ya nagad rupiye. Agar Meher fouran ada na karna
ho to behatar yeh hai k voh sikke k bajaye sone ya chandi ki shakal
mein ho. Kyun k is ki qadar wa qimat am taur par kam hojati hai aur is
mein biwi ka nuqsan hota hai. Isliye behtar yeh hai k meher agar fouri
ada karna hai toh nagad rupiya ki shakal mein aur agar fouran ada nahi
karna ho toh isko sone ya chandi ki shakal mein ada kiya jaye ta k
adAyegi k waqt biwi ko pura pura meher milsake.
Yeh bhi dekha gaya hai k baz aurtein apna meher wasul karne mein
jhijakti hain. Lekin yeh jhijak isi galat fikr ki wajeh se hai jis ne meher
ki ahmiyat ko kam kardiya hai. Warna huqiqat toh yeh hai k meher
aurat ka huq hai. Jo Allah aur Rasul Allah ne ise diya hai aur is k liye
aizaz ki baat hai.
2.4 Nikah K Maqased:
Kisi qanun ki sahih spirit ko samajhne k liye is qanun k maqased ka
samajhna zaruri hai. Kyun k qanun mein sabse aham chiz is ka maqsad
hota hai. Maqsad ko pura karne k liye usul muqarar kiya jate hai usulon k
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2.4.i Islam mein Nikah k maqased darje-zail hain.

Pahla Maqsad: Mard aur aurat k akhlaq ki pakizgi ki hifazat yeh Islam
ki nigah mein nikah ka avvalein aur aham tarin maqsad hai k mard wa
aurat dono k akhlaq aur unki iffat wa asmat ki puri tarah hifazat kijaye.
Islami qanun mein najayez ta’aluq haram hai aur iski sakt saza hai. Islam
mard wa aurat ko hukum deta hai k voh apne fitri ta’aluq aur nafsani
khwahish ko aise zabte ka paband banayein jo in k akhlaq ko behayayi
aur insani tehzib ko fasad se mahfuz rakhe. Quran-e-Majeed mein nikah
ki tabir(meaning) “ehsan” se ki gayi hai. Ehsan k mane hai qila bandi-
Nikah karne wale mard “mohsin” yani qila bananewala aur nikah mein
ane wali aurat “mohsina” yani qila ki hifazat mein anewali hai. Nikah ka
pahla kaam is qiley ko mazbut aur mustahkam karna hai.
2.4.ii Dusra Maqsad: Nasal-e-insani ki baqa aur uski afzAyesh k khudai
mansube ka zariya mard aur aurat ka ta’aluq hai. Quran-e-Majeed mein
farmaya gaya hai.

}2:223{ ﴾          ﴿
“Tumhari aurtein tumhari khetiyan hain. Tumhein ekhtiyar hai jis tarah
chaho apni kheti mein jao magar apne mustaqbil ki fikr karo”.(2:223)
“Apne mustaqbil ki fikr karo” is jumle ka ek mafhum toh yeh hai k nasal-
e-insani mein izafa hona chahiye ta k tumhare dunya chodne se pahle
tumhari jagah lene wale ajayein. Dusra mafhum yeh hai k apni ane wali
nasal ki tarbiyat aur in k deeni akhlaq ka khiyal rakho. Walidain ki na
ittefaqi ka aulad par bura asar padta hai. Agar in mein muwafeqat na ho
toh aulad ki tarbiyat aur dekhbhal sahih dhang se na hosakegi.
2.4.iii Nikah ka Teesra Maqsad: Sukun-e-qalb aur muwaddat wa
rahmat- yani yeh rishta mard wa aurat k darmiyan dili ta’aluq ki bunyad
bane. Ta k dono ki gharellu zindagi mein voh rahat wa masarrat aur
sukun-e-qalb hasil ho jo insani tahzib ko agey badhane k liye in ko taqat
wa quwwat farahem kare. Quran-e-Majeed mein is rishte k ta’aluq se
Allah Ta’ala ne irshad farmaya hai k
“voh tumhare liye libas hain aur tum un k.” (2:187) Libas jism k muttasil
rehta hai. Parda poshi bhi karta hai. Rahat aur aram bhi deta hai.
2.4.iv Chautha Maqsad: Dini aur muashirati maslehat – Nikah mein
kabhi koyi dini maslehat bhi hoti hai jis ki behtarin misal khud Hazrat
Mohammeind (saw) ki zindagi mein milti hai. Kyun k ap(saw) ne bahut
si shadiyan deen k masael puhchane aur dawati nuqte-nazar se ki hain.
Kabhi nikah mein koyi muasherati maslehat bhi hoti hai yeh Quran-e-
Majeed mein yatimon k bare mein irshad hua hai k yatimon k huquq ki

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hifazat ki ek surat yeh bhi hai k agar in ki mayein mohramat (Mahram

aurat jis se nikah karna haram hai) mein se na ho toh inse nikah karlo.
               ﴿

}4:3{ ﴾              
“Agar tumhein dar ho k yatim ladkyon se nikah kar k tum insaf na
rakhsakoge toh aurton mein se jo bhi tumhein achchi lagein tum in se
nikah karlo-Do do tin-tin char-char…. Lekin agar tumhein barabari na
karsakne ka khauf ho toh ek hi kafi hai ya tumhari milkiyat ki laundi, yeh
ziyada qarib hai k (aisa karne se insafi aur) ek taraf jhuk padne se bach
jao”. (4:3)
Is ayat se malum hua k ek muslim mard (agar voh zaruratmand hai) toh
char aurtein ek hi waqt mein apne nikah mein rakhsakta hai. Lekin is se
zyada nahi. Jaisa k Sahih Hadis mein bhi iski mazid sarahat k saath hud
qayam kardi gayi hai. Nabi (saw) ne jo char se zyada shadiyan kein voh
sirf Ap (saw) k saath makhsus hai. Jis par kisi ummati k liye amal karna
jAyez nahi. (Ibn-e-Kathir)
Maon aur behnon se guzarish hai k voh apni ladkiyon ko shadi se pahle
puri Quran-e-Majid ki tafsir padhaein aur samjhaein k voh apne sharayi
hudud se puri taur par waqfiyat hasil kar k Allah k har houkum ko mun
wa khushi se qubul kar k Allah ki raza wa khushnudi k hi talib rahein. Jis
k liye qina’at sabr aur shukr ki nematein zaruri hain. Is k liye Allah se
dua karti rahein k ‘jis ko shukr guzari ki hidayat hogayi voh Allah ki
khusnudi hasil karega’. Har muslim mard wa aurat ko Allah ka har
hukum manna zaruri hai. Sharayi hudud mein char aurtaton se nikah,
mard ko Allah ki ijazat hai aur ijazat adal k saath mashrut ki gayi hai.
Varna ek hi par iktefa ki bhi wazahat hai. Agar koyi mard Allah ki is
ijazat se fayeda hasil karna chahta ho toh muashere k ba-asar hazraat ki
zimmedari hai k mausuf ko adal ki talqin karein k ‘amar bilma’aruf wa
nahi anil munkir’ karne walon ko Allah bachaleta hai. (7:164, 165). Is
hukum se muashere ki islah maqsud hai, jo mashiyat-e-Aizdi hai.
Mukammil aur baja taur par amal aver hon. Yani ek hi aurat se shadi
karna kafi hosakta hai. Kyun k ek se zyada biwiyan rakhne ki surat mein
insaf karna bahut mushkil hai. Jiski taraf qalbi milan zyada hoga
zaruriyat-e-zindagi ki farahami mein zyada tawajjeh bhi is k taraf hogi. Is
tarah biwiyon k darmiyan voh insaf karne mein nakam rahega, aur Allah
k haan mujrim qarar payega. Quran ne is huqiqat ko dusre maqam par
nehayat baligana andaz mein sarahat farmaya hai.
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“Tum se yeh toh kab na hosakga k apni tamam biwiyon mein har tarah
adal karo, go tum iski kitni hi khauhesh wa koshish karlo, isliye bilkul hi
ek ki taraf mayel ho kar dusri ko adhar latakti hui na chodo. Aur agar tum
islah karo aur taqwa ekhtiyar karo toh beshak Allah Ta’ala badi maghfirat
aur rahmat wala hai”. (4:129)[Tafsir: Yeh ek dusri surat hai k ek shaks ki
ek se zyada biwiyan ho toh dili ta’aluq aur mohabbat mein voh sab k
saath eksan suluk nahi karsakta. Kyun k mohabbat, fail-e-qalb hai jis per
kisi ko ekhtiyar nahi hai. Khud Nabi (saw) ko bhi apni biwiyon mein sab
se zyada mohabbat Hazrat Ayesha se thi. Khauhesh k bawajud insaf na
karne se matlab yehi qalbi milan aur mohabbat mein adum-masavat hai.
Agar yeh qalbi mohabbat zaheri huquq ki masavat mein rukawat na bane
toh Allah k nazdik girift k qabil nahi. Jis tarah k Nabi (saw) ne iska
nehayat umda namuna paish farmaya. Lekin aksar log is qalbi mohabbat
ki wajeh se dusri biwiyon k huquq ada nahi karte aur inhein muallaq
(darmyan mein latki hui) banakar rakh chodte hain. Na inhein tallaq dete
hain na huquq-e-zaruriyat ada karte hain. Yeh intehai zulm hai jis se
yahan roka gaya hai. Nabi (saw) ne bhi farmaya hai “ Jis shaks ki do
biwiyan hon aur voh ek ki taraf mayel ho (yane dusri ko nazar andaz kiye
rakhe) toh Qiyamat k din voh istarah ayega k uske jism ka ek hissa (yane
adha hissa) falij zada hoga”. (Tirmizi, Kitab-e-Nikah) ]
Agar nikah apne maqasid ko pura karne wala ho to voh kamyab nikah
hai. Aur kamyab nikah ka matlab hai kamyab muashira. Kyun k nikah
darasal voh ta’aluq hai jis se muashira banta hai. Jis tarah diwar einton se
banti hai aur uski ek bunyad hoti hai. Agar bunyad mazbut ho toh usper
utayi janewali imarat bhi mazbut hogi aur bunyad kamzor ho toh sari
imarat kamzor rah jAyegi. Isliye Islam ne akhlaqi, qanuni, zaheri aur
bantini har tarah se is baat ki koshish ki hai k nikah ka yeh ta’aluq ek
jaandar ta’aluq ho.
2.5 Nikah k maqasid ko pura karne k liye is ne do usul muqarar kiye hain.
2.5.i Nikah Mein Mard ki Zimmedariyan:
Pahla usul yeh hai k idare ka nigran yani “qawwam” mard hai. Iski
zimmedari yeh hai k voh apni salahiyaton se kam le kar nikah par nigrani
rakhe k is mein kisi tarah ki koyi kamzori aur rakhna paida na ho.Is ka
pahla farz hai k voh apne biwi bachchon k akhrajat ka intezam kare aur
isteta’at aur haisiyat k mutabiq inki zaroriyat ko pura kare ta k inko apni
zarurat puri karne k liye apne ghar k nigran k alawa kisi dusre ki taraf
dekhna na pade. Meher ki adAyegi darsal mali kifalat ka amali unwan hai.
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aur akhlaqi tarbiyat ka intezam, yeh sab mard ki zimmedariyon mein

shamil hai. In zimmedariyon ko ada karte waqt is ko nihayat hikmat aur
tadbir k saath kam lena hoga. Halaat aur uski zarurat k mutabeq narmi bhi
aur garmi bhi, na toh “Zanmurid” kahlaye jane ki zarurat hai na voh
shair banne ki hajat k jis k ane se ruh kanpne lage. Bal k ise sahih
mane mein ek rafiq aur shafiq ki haisiyat se nikah k is idare ko kamyabi k
saath chalana chahiyye. Jab mard ka farAyez aur zimmedariyan itni wasi
hain toh ek toda sa ekhtiyar bhi isko milna chahiyye, aur voh ekhtiyar yeh
hai k agar tamam tar koshish k bawajud yeh dekhe k ghar ki zindagi ka
nazm chal nahi paraha hai aur isi sharik-e-zindagi is k saath ta’avvun
nahi karahi hai aur voh yeh dekh raha hai k nikah apne maqased mein
kamyabi k bajaye mukammil nakam hochuka hai toh phir bajaye is k k
voh is murdah nikah ko wabal ki tarah khinchta phire is se chutkara
hasil karsake aur zaher hai k yeh bilkul akhri manzil hai.
2.5.ii Nikah Mein Aurat k Huquq:
Dusri taraf aurat ka muameinla hai jo agarche insan hai aur mard ki
tarah ek ma bap se paida hui hai magar apni fitrat k mutabeq voh shishe ki
tarah nazuk hai. Allah Ta’ala ko is se bhi kaam lena hai. Tahzib ki gadi
ka voh dusra paiyya hai aur iski bhi ahmiyat mard se kisi tarah kam nahi
hai. Mard is k bagair naqis samjha jata hai, na mukammil hai aur voh
(aurat) khud bhi apni takmil k liye mard ki zaruratmand hai. Iski apni ek
shaksiyat hai. Iski apni ek pehchan hai. Iski apni fitrat k kuch taqaze hain.
Islam ne in tamam chizon ka pure taur par khiyal rakhte hue isko kuch
zimmedariyan di hai, kuch us k huquq rakhe hai.
1. Voh apne mal ki is tarah malik hai jaise mard apne mal ka malik hai.
2. Voh apni zindagi k faislon mein isi tarah azad hai jis tarah mard azad hai.
3. Iska farz hai k voh apne mal k saath mard k mal ki bhi hifazat rakhe
aur mal k saath abru aur razon ki bhi isi tarah hifazat kare.
4. Iska kirdar wa amal aisa ho k shohar usko dekhe toh khush hojaye.
5. Huquq k saath zimmedariyon ka tawazun aur etedal gharelu zindagi ko
khush gawar banata hai.
2.5.iii Nikah Mein Walidain ki zimmedari:
Dusra usul : Nikah k ta’aluq mein ap dekhte hain k eijab wa qubul- yane mard
k saath aurat ki bhi manzuri.---Yeh itna aham hai, iss k bagair nikah tashkil hi
nahi pata hai. Lekin kya yeh pehlu bhi ap k samne hai k Hazrat Mohammeind
(saw) jinki haisiyat yeh hai k voh Allah k paigamber bhi hain aur musalmanon k
sarbarah aur hakim bhi hain. Inko Allah Ta’ala hukam de rahe hai k
(}3:159 { ﴾   ﴿)

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“Aye Nabi (saw) Aap apne sathiyon se maswera kiya karein, Aur Ap
(saw) ka tariqa bhi yehi tha k Ap(saw) aksar kaam ashab k mashware k
bagair nahi karte thai. Ladka Ladki jo abhi pokhtagi ki manzil mein
dakhil nahi hue na samajh hain, na tajrubekar hain, apne achche bure ko
puri tarah nahi samajte, apne mustaqbil k bare mein sahih faisla karna
apni na tarjuba kari ki wajah se kafi mushkil hai. Ma bap jinhon ne inki
parvarish ki hai in k achche bure ki fikr karte hain, inki raye aur inka
mashwera agar itne aham faisle mein shamil na ho toh khatra hai k bahut
si chizein nazron se ojhal hojayeingi. Phir yeh ta’aluq do insanon ka hi
nahi bal k do khandanon ka hai aur do gharanon ka hai. Is ta’aluq se
rishtedariyon ki bahut si shakhein nikalti hai. Is liye agar shariyat in
tamam pahluvon ko samne rakhte hue yeh kahti hai k wali k bagair
nikah nahi hai toh yeh bilkul huq bajanib hai.
2.5.iv Nikah k pakizga ta’aluq ko karobari qism ka ta’aluq banadena
insaniyat ki tauhin hai.
Yeh kaisa almiah hai k insan se zyada saman aham hojaye--- Jahan tak
lein -dein ka muamela hai agar beti ko rukhsat karte waqt apni khushi se
dil k jazbe se zaruriyat-e-zindagi ka kuch saman kuch tohfe tahaef ladki k
walidain apni ladki ko dein ya damad ko bagair kisi taklif se khush dili k
saath koyi tohfa de dein toh akhlaq wa murawwat, insaniyat aur shariyat
k lehaz se ek bilkul jAyez aur munasib baat hai. Sharayi etebar se is k
liye koyi meqhdar bhi muqarrar nahi. Agar dusre maqasid na hon toh ma
bap apne dili taqaze k tahet jo kuch dena chahein desakte hain. Kharabi
yahan paida hoti hai jab--- Ladke wale aur ladki wale saman-e-jahez ko
apni namud aur numAyesh fakr wa mubahat aur apne status k izhar ka
zariya bana lete hain.Ladke wale amalan isko apna huq samajte hain.
Umidain badhte hain k zyada se zyada saman-e-jahez mile. Kami rahjaye
toh ladki walon ko tang karte hain. Is ek kharabi se kitni kharabiyan paida
horahi hain. Kitn ladkiyan bagair shadi k baithi hain.
2.5.v Sonch aur Andaz-e-Fikr Islami Ho: Asal muamela sonch aur
andaz-e-fikr ka hai. Jab tak sonchne ka andaz nahi badlega kuch bhi nahi
badlega. Humein apne khiyalaat ko ek markaz par jamalena chahiye.
Hamara ideal kaun hai? Hamare liye namuna aur misal kaun hai?
Voh kaun hai jis ki zindagi Qiyamat tak tamam zamanon aur duniya k
tamam insanon k liye “ ek misali zindagi” hai? Phir yeh k yeh misali
namuna itna jamein (umda) hai k is ne zindagi ka koyi pahlo tishna nahi
rakha. Ibadat, siasat, akhlaq, muamelat se lekar muasherat tak zindagi k
tamam kaam is ne bataye bhi aur kar k dikhaye bhi. Is ne apni shadiyan hi
nahi apne bacchon ki shadiyan bhi kiein. Voh khula zahen rakhne wala
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hai. Voh imam-ul Ambiya, khatim-ul Ambiya, Sarwar-e-Alam Habib-e-

Khuda. Ap k hamare rahbar wa rahnuma Hazrat Mohammed (saw).
2.5.vi Ladka ya ladki shadi ki umer ko pahunchjate hain, apne
zimmedariyon ko uthane k layeq hojate hain. Ap kahte hain neik ladka aur
neik ladki ek dusre k munasib milrahe hain toh shadi mein dair na karo. Ek
dusre ka payam qubul karlo, mal wa daulat ko na dekho, zaheri husn par
farefta na ho, sab se bada husn, husn-e-seerat hai, zarurat mahsus ho toh
zimmedar buzargon ki maujudgi mein ladka aur ladki ek dusre ko dekh bhi
sakte hain. Mulaheza farmayein Sarwar-e-Anbiya (saw) ka yeh irshad,
“Hazrat Mughira ibn Shu’ba (RA) bayan karte hain k mein ne ek aurat ko
payam-e-nikah diya toh Rasul Allah (saw) ne farmaya k “kya tum ne usko
dekhliya”? mein ne kaha nahi, Ap (saw) ne farmaya “isko dekhlo tumhare
rishte ki payadari k liye yeh zyada behtar hoga”. Ek taraf nigahein nichi
rakhne, sharm wa haya, parde k ehkam mard wa aurat k azadana mail milap se
bachne ki takid, ittefaqan na mahrem par nigah pad jaye toh dubara jan buj kar
na dekhi, iffat, ismat aur pakizgi ki hifazat k sare bandobast. Aur dusri taraf is
muqaddas rishte ki payadari k liye ek nigah dekhne ki ijazat, sharm wa haya k
saath munasib guftagu bhi ki jasakti hai voh bhi dekhbhal mein shamil hai.
(Jehan rishta karne ka irada ho wahin dekhna chahiyeh.) Mangni ya rishta
zaban se wa’ada karlene ka naam hai. Is mein kisi makhsus rasam, chain,
angoti pahnane ki koyi baat nahi hai. Rozmara ki zindagi mein ane walon ki
halki phulki tawazo kardein jis mein koyi dono mein se kisi par baar na ho is
mein koyi haraj nahin. Shariat ap ko ek munasib aur ma’aqul hud mein izhar-
e-masarrat se rokhti nahi hai. Yeh koyi khushk shari’at nahi hai, magar is ki
hadein israf, fuzul kharchi aur namud wa numAyesh se mat milayein. Shariat
yeh chahti hai aur iska yeh mutaleba hamare hi fayede k liye hi hai. Insani
rishte sab apni apni jagah badi ahmiyat rakhte hain, Lekin sab se pahla rishta jo
insanon k darmiyan qayim hua voh miyan biwi ka rishta tha. “Aur uski
nishaniyon mein se ek yeh hai k isne tumhari hi jins se biwiyan banayein ta k
tum un k pass sukun hasil karo aur tumhare darmyan mohabbat wa rahmat
paida kardi. Yeh bhi samajhna chahiye k Islam ki nazar mein nikah ka ta’aluq
sirf dunyadari ka ta’aluq nahi hai bal k yeh khuda parasti ka b zariya hai kyun
k Islam mein tark-e-duniya ka koyi tasaswur nahi hai (Taham mah-e-Ramzan
ul Mubarak mein aitekaf farz-e-kifaya hai) Isliye tark nikah bhi mustehsan
nahi hai bal k huqiqat mein nikah deen ki takmil hai. Jism aur ruh ki yeh talluq
ek “ba maqsad” atya-e-khudawandi hai aur ise sahih rukh par aur til tak hadon

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mein puri tarah kam karne ka manqa’a milna chahiye. “Nikah meri sunat hai jo
meinri sunat par na chalega voh mera na hoga.”
“Aur Main (Huzur (saw)) aurton se nikah bhi karta hun puss jo koyi mere
is tariqe se rugardani karega (gair shadi shuda rehna) ki koyi gunjayesh
nahi.” “Islam mein Rahbaniyat (dunya se alag talag hojana) nahi hai.”
“Jis ne Allah k liye diya, Allah kliye roka, Allah k liye mohabbat ki aur
Allah hi k liye adawat rakhi aur Allah hi k liye is ne nikah kiya is ne apna
eman ko mukammil karliya”. Hazrat Anas (RA) se riwayat hai k Rasul
Allah (saw) ne farmaya k “Jab banda nikah karleta hai toh voh apna adha
deen pura kar leta hai bus baqi adhe k bare mein bhi “Taqwa” ki rawish
ekhtiyar kare”. Nikah ka sab se pahla marhala hai sharik-e-zindagi ka
intekhab. Yeh sabse mushkil aur yeh sabse aham marhala hai, Dusre
rishte jo nikah k natije mein bante hain in k bahane mein insane k ekhtyar
ka dakhal nahi hota voh khud ba khud ban jate hain. Magar sharik-e-
zindagi k intekhab mein ek hud tak insan ka bhi dukhal hai k kis ko apna
sathi chune?
Hazrat Abu Hurairah (RA) se riwayat hai k Rasul Allah (saw) ne farmaya k
“Aurat se char chizon k samne rakhkar shadi ki jati hai: 1. Unk mal ko dekh
kar 2. Us k bade khandan ko dekh kar 3. Uski khubsuri ko dekh kar 4. Aur
usk din ko dekhkar. Tum deendar aurat ko talash karo tumhara bhala hoga”.
Hazrat Abdullah ibne Omer (RA) se riwayat hai k Rasul Allah (saw) ne
farmaya k: “Dunya sab ki sab mata’a (jald chali janewali nemat aur
saman) hai----Aur is duniya ki sab se badi nemat neik aurat hai”.
2.5.vii Shadi Biyah Mein Hamsari:
Nikah ek sukun zindagi aur saleh muashire ki bunyad hai. Yahan zaujain
mein mawaddat wa Rahmat k saath zindagi bhar ki rifaqat aur ek hamahang
khandan ki tameer ka maqsud hai. Isliye ba waqt-e-nikah iska lehaz zaruri
hai k zaujain k darmiyan akhlaq, deen, khandan, muashirati taur tariqe mein
itna fasla aur faraq na ho k yeh chizein in k ta’aluqat mein bigad ka sabub
ban jayein aur nikah k maqasid faut ho kar reh jayein.
2.5.viii Rishta-e-Azdwaj Muashire k Liye Sang-e-Bunyad ki Haisiyat
Rakhta Hai: Jab tameer karne wale imarat ki bunyad ka pahla pather teda
rakhta hai, toh jitni unchayi tak bhi diwar banegi toh teydi hi banegi. Jab kisi
samaj aur muashire mein sonchne ka andaz badal jata hai aur deen wa akhlaq,
neki wa sharafat k bajaye dusri chizein izzat wa zillat ka meyar ban jati hain
toh sara nizam darham barham hojata hai. “Saleh aqdar” society ka sab se bada
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ki buniyad saleh khandan aur saleh khandan ki buniyad “saleh joda” hai. Is
liye khub sonch samaj kar qadam utaiyye. Ek galat qadam tabahi ka paish
khima bansakta hai. Ap k liye bhi aur muashire k liye bhi.
2.6 Islam Mein Aurton K Huquq:
Islam mein mardon aur aurton k huquq tafsil se bayan kiye gaye hain.
Sharayi aur dunvi etebar se har ek ko tawazun k saath huquq aur
zimmedariyan ayed (lazim) ki gayein hain. Maujuda zamane mein
khawatin k saath jo suluk kiya jar aha hai voh Islami taleemat k bar-aks
hai k in par voh zimmedariyan Ayed (lazim) ki jarahi hain, jo deen-e-
fitrat ne in k liye muqarar nahin ki, Jis ki wajah se na sirf khawatin bal k
muashirati tawazun bhi bigadte jaraha hai aur uska bura asar aulad par
padh raha hai. Jaisa k Allah Ta’ala ka irshad hai:
﴾        ﴿ 1
}4:32 {
“Mardon ka is mein se hisa hai jo inhone kamaya. Aur aurton k liye is
mein hisa hai jo inhone kamaya hai”.
}4:34{﴾              ﴿ 2
”Mard aurton par hakim hain is wajah se Allah Ta’ala ne ek ko dusre par
fazilat di hai aur is wajeh se k mardon ne apne mal kharch kiye hain . Is
mein mard ki hakimiyat wa qavvamiyat ki do wajhein bayan ki gayi hain. Ek
wajeh –yani Allah ki ata karda, jo mardana quwwat wa dimagi salahiyat hai jis
mein mard aurat se akhalqi taur par mumtaz hai.
Dusri kasabi hai jiska mukallif (zimmedar) shariat ne mard ko banaya hai. Aur aurat
ko iski fitri kamzori aur makhsus taleemat ki wajeh se jis mein Islam ne aurat ki iffat
wa haya aur us k taqaddus k tahaffuz k liye zaruri qarar diya hai. Aurat ko ma’ashi
jhameinlon se dur rakha hai. Aurat ki sarbarahi ki khilaf Quran-e-Karim ki is
Hadis se hoti hai, Jis mein Nabi (saw) ne farmaya “Voh qaum hargiz falahyab nahi
hogi jis ne apne umur ek aurat k sipurud kardiye” (Al-Quran-ul-Karim wa tarjuma
mani wa tafsir ilal urdia shah-fahad Quran-e-Karim Printing complex).
Ayat no: 1 aur 2 bil khusus naujawanon k liye qabil-e-tawajjeh hain.
Samajhne ki aur amal karneki zarurat hai. Gaur wa fikr ka maqam hai k
virasat mein bhi ladki ma bap k tarke mein hissedar hai. makhsus halat
mein behan ki surat mein bhi hissedar hai. Lekin isk bawajud shariyat ne
aurat ko muashi jhameinlon se dur rakha hai. Nikah k baab mein hum
padh chuke hain k “biwi” ko chand zimmedariyan digayi hain, kuch
huquq rakhe gaye hain. Voh apne mal ki malika isi tarah hai jaise mard
apne mal ka malik hai. Aur ayat mein iski wazahhat di gayi hai k mard
aur aurat k huquq maqul aur munsib hain. Mard auraton par hakim hain,
isliye k voh apne maal kharach karte hai.
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2.7 Naujawanon Par Mehram Khawatin Ki Zimmedariyan:

2.7.i Ap k khandan ki jo mehram khawatin (jaise Ma, behen, beti, khala,
phupi, bhanji, bhatiji wagairah) hain ap per unki deeni taleem, namaz ki
pabandi Quran ki tilawat , parde ki pabandi aur Islami muashire k liye dusre
ehkam (ap khud ilm hasil karein) par amal karwana apka farz hai. Parde k
ehkam pahle mard k liye (24:30) aur phir aurton k liye hain. (24:31) mein
bayan kiye gaye hain. Agar unko baher nikalne ki zarurat ho (taleem hasil
karne k liye, job karne k liye aur dusre mamelat karne.) toh parde mein aur
hudude shariat mein rah kar apne mamelaat karien. Na mehram khawatin k
bare mein mard nigahein nichi rakhne ka hukm diya gaya hai (24:30). Pahli
nazar galti se kisi na mehram aurat per padh jaye toh Allah muaf kardega,
lekin dusri amadan nazar girift ka maujib bansakti hai. Isitarah Allah Ta’ala
auraton (ladkiyon) ko hukum deta hai k aurtein (ladkiyan) apni nigahein
nichi rakhein aur apni asmat mein faraq na ane dein aur apni zinat ko
namehram k samne zaher na karein. Baat khari khari karni chahiye. Chatak
matak ki chal wa guftagu se Islam mein mana kiya gaya hai. Isliye k aise
mard jin k dil mein behayayi ki bimari hai dil lagi na karne lagein. (24:31).
Voh naujawan jo sharayi ehkam ka ehteram nahi karte in k ta’aluq se Allah
Ta’ala ne irshad farmaya: “jo log musalmanon mein behayayi phailane k
arzumand rahte hain in k liye duniya wa akhirat mein dardnak azab hai.
Allah sab kuch janta hai. Aur tum kuch bhi nahi jante.” (24:19) “Agar tum
per Allah Ta’ala ka fazal aur Uski rahmat na hoti aur yeh bhi k Allah badi
shafaqat rakhne wala meherban hai toh tum par azab uter jata.” (24:20).
“Eman walo! Shaitan k qadam ba qadam na chalo. Jo shakhs shaitani
qadamon ki pairvi kare toh voh toh behayayi aur bure kamon ka hi hukum
karega. Aur agar Allah Ta’ala ka fazal wa karam tum par na hota toh tum
mein se koyi hi paak saaf na hota. Lekin Allah Ta’ala jise paak karna chahe
karedeta hai aur Allah sab sunne wala sab janne wala hai.” (24:21) Allah k
ehkam maan kar amal karne se Allah ki raza aur khushnudi hasil karne ka
irada ho toh aise logon k liye jannat ki basharatein digayi hain. Aur Allah k
ehkam mante toh hain lekin amal nahin karte. In k nam-e-amal mein
neikiyon ki kami ki wajeh neikyon ka padla halka rahega aur aise logon k
liye akhirat mein bure tikane se daraya gaya hai. Yani sirf ehkam malum
karlene se chutkara nahi milega jab tak amal-e-saleha (neik amal) na ho.
Isliye k eman k saath hi amal-e-saleha aur nekiyon ka padhla wazani(bhari)
rahega aur Allah ki rahmat se jannat ki basharaton k mustaheq honge. Mazid
Allah Ta’ala ka khitab naujawanon se yeh hai k voh khud bhi apne ap ko
neki aur rahe-e-rast par qayim rakhein aurapne ghar walon ko bhi nek amal
karne ki takid aur talqin karein. “Aye emanwalo! Tum apne apko aur apne
gharwalon ko is aag se bachao jis ka endhan insan aur pather hain.” (66:6)

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2.7.ii Gaur karne ka maqam hai: Wahi ki shuruat: (96: 1-5) “Iqra” se
hui, yane “Padh”.
“Padh apne Rabb k nam se jis ne paida kiya. (1) Jis ne insan ko khun k lothde se
paida kiya. (2) Tuu padhta rah tera Rabb bade karam wala hai. (3) Jis ne qalam k
zariye (ilm) sikhaya. (4) Jis ne insan ko voh sikhaya jisey voh nahi janta tha. (5)
Allah ka hukum hai “Taleem hasil karo” taleem mein sab se pahle deeni taleem
hai phir asri taleem.
Hadis-e-Nabvi (saw)
“Talabul ilmu fareezatun ala kulle muslimun”. (Bukhari Tirmizi).
“Ilm ka hasil karna har musalman (mard aur aurat) par faraz hai”. Ladkiyon ko
deeni ulum se waqfiyat aur in ulum mein maharat hasil karna zaruri hai k
mustaqbil mein in shaa Allah voh apni aulad ki muallim (ustad) banne wali hain.
Zaheri baat hai ustad ko ilm k zewar se arasta hona zaruri hai warna khud jo na
sikhe voh dusron ko kya sikhayega.
Ma ki goad bachche ki pahli darsgah hai. Isliye ladkiyon ko deeniyat ka tafsil se
ilm hasil karna zaruri hai. Islam ek dastur-e-hayat hai. Jo gahware (jhule) se
lekar gour (qabar) tak hai. Ajkal science wa technology ki jo taraqqi ho rahi hai,
is mein bhi musalman ko paish paish rahna chahiye. Zamane qadeem k bade
bade mashur riyazidan (Matematicians) Sciencedan, Hakim wa tabeeb Arab
mumalik se hi hain. Yahan tafsilat bayan nahi ki jasaktein. Musalman (Islam k
usul par amal karte hue) ala taleem hasil karein, aur ala ohdon par fayez hon toh
Islam ka jhanda bahut izzat wa waqa’at k saath –
Buland kiya jasakta hai. Ajkal na toh deeni taleem ka shawur hai aur na hi asri
taleem ka rujhan (siwaye chand logon k) jo qaum ko pasmanda banana mein
bahut khatarnak roll ada karraha hai. Quamon ka meyar taleem se moayyen kiya
jata hai. Taleem ki bunyad deeni taleem hai. Islami taleem se hudud-e-sharayi
malum kar k jo asri taleem mein tarraqqi karta hai isko sa’adat-e-darain hasil hoti
Hai. Is shakhs k liye duniya aur akhirat mein sukun ka thikana hai. Chun k Islam mein
halal rozi ki badi ahmiyat hai, Islami taleemat se kirdar sazi hoti hai. Qina’at aur esaar
ka jazba paida hota hai. Halal rozi kamane mein musalman Islam ka namuna paish
karta hai. Jo jo Islam ka gahrayi se mutallea kiye hain in sab ki raye yehi hai k ‘Islam
toh achcha deen (mazhab) hai lekin is k pairokaar achche nahin.’ Is ki wajeh Irsad Bari
e Ta’ala se saaf zaher hai.

           ﴿

﴾    

(2:208)
“Aye eman walo! Islam mein pure k pure dakhil hojao.Aur shaitan k
qadmon ki tabedari na karo voh tumhara khula dushman hai.” (2:208)
          ﴿

               

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﴾   

(2:85)
(2:85) “Kya baaz ahkaam per eman rakhte ho aur baaz k saath kufr karte
ho? Tum mein se jo bhi aisa kare uski saza iss k siva kya ho k duniya
mein rusvai aur Qiyamat k din sakht azab ki maar, aur Allah Ta’ala
tumhare amaal se bekhabar nahin.”
Aj kal hamara kya haal hai? Chahre toh bade nurani hai lekin jhut, fareb,
dhokabazi, iza rasani mein apna sani nahi rakhte. Yeh yehan isliye bayan kiya
jaraha hai k maa ki goad jo pahli darsgah hai, yeh bunyadi akhlaq ki nasho-
numa isi waqt mumkin hai jab k badhte bachche k samne sachayi, rast bazi
namaz ki pabandi ki misalein payi jayein jis ko badhta baccha apne ap mein
jazb karta hai, aur yeh jazb karne ki salahiyat qudrati hai. Misal ka namuna
galat paish kar k huq ki nasihat kaam nahi ati. Is se muslim ladki k farayez
wazeh hote hain k aj ki ladkiyan kal k din qaum ki mayein banne wali hain.
Isiliye Islami muashire ki shuruat deeni taleem se ki jaye.
Yeh maqola bahut sahih hai k ‘ek ladke ki taleem ek fard ki taleem hai,
jab k ek ladki ki taleem ek khandan ki taleem hai.’[Is liye k aj ki ladki kal
ma banegi toh apni aulad ki ustad (teacher) hogi.]
Millat k naujawanon se yeh guzarish hai k voh khud deeni taleem hasil
karein aur apne mahram kwateen ki deeni taleem per bhi tawajjeh dein k
hamare muashire (society) ka har fard Islam ki schchi misaal paish kare.
3. TAUBA ASTAGHFAR AUR DUAYEIN
} {﴾      ﴿
(27:46): “Tum Allah Ta’ala se astaghfar kyun nahi karte ta k tum par
rahem kya jaye.”
} {﴾
          ﴿
(5:74): “Ye log kyun Allah Ta’ala ki taraf kyun nahi jhukte aur kyun
astaghfar nahi karte? Allah Ta’ala toh bahut hi bakhashne wala aur bada
hi meherban hain.”
} {﴾          ﴿
(4:106): Allah Ta’ala se bakhashish mangta reh, be shak Allah Ta’ala
bakhshish karne wala meherbani karne wala hain.”
            ﴿
           
            
} {﴾         

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Allah Ta’ala se bakhshish mangna aur sachchi khalis tauba karna.

(66:8): “Aye eman walo! Tum Allah k samne sachchi khalis tauba karo
mumukin hai k tumhara Rabb tumhare gunah dur karde aur tumhein aisi
jannaton mein pahonchade jin k niche nehrein jari hain. Jis din Allah
Ta’ala Nabi ko aur eman daron ko jo un k saath hain rusva na karega, in
ka nur un k samne aur un k dayine daod raha hoga yeh duayein karte
honge, aye hamare Rabb! Hamein hamara nur ata farma aur hamein
bakhashde yaqinan toh har cheez par qadir hai..”
               ﴿

{﴾
       
}
Allah ki rehmat se mayus na hon.(39:53): “Mere janib se kah do k aye
mere bando! Jinhon ne apni janon par ziyadati ki, tum Allah ki rehmat se
na umid na ho jao bil yaqin Allah Ta’ala sare gunahon ko bakhash deta
hai, waqayi voh badi, bakhshish badi rehmat wala hai.”
﴾            ﴿
Allah eman walon ki dua sunta hai.(42:25): “Wahi hai jo apne bandon
ki tauba qubul farmata hai aur gunahon se dar guzar farmata hai.”
﴾           ﴿
Jo tauab karlein aur islah karein toh Allah Ta’ala un ki tauba qubul
karleta hai. (2:160): “Magar voh log jo tauba karlein aur islah karein aur
bayan kardein toh Main unki tauba qubul karleta hun aur main toh tauba
qubul karne wala aur rehm o karam karne wala hun.”
﴾               ﴿
Jo tauba karlein aur islah karein toh Allah Ta’ala rehmat k saath is
ki taraf laut ta hai. (5:39): “Jo shakhs apne gunah k baad tauba karle aur
islah karle toh Allah Ta’ala rehmat k saath us ki taraf laut ta hai yaqinan
Allah Ta’ala maaf farmane wala meherbani karne wala hai.”
          ﴿

{﴾
     
}
Taubatun nasuhan karne walon k gunahon ko Allah Ta’ala nekiyon se
badal dete hain. (25:70): “Siwaye un logon k jo tauba karein aur eman
layein aur nek kaam karein, aise logon k gunahon ko Allah Ta’ala nekiyon
se badal deta hai, Allah bakhshne wala meherbani karne wala hai.”

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4. Tauba Ki Ayaat
} {﴾            ﴿
Adam (as) ki tauba. (7:23): “Dono Duayein karne lage k hamare
Parwardigar beshak hum ne apni jano par zulm kiya, ab agar Tu hamein
na bakhshega aur hum par rahem na farmayega toh hum na murad aur
barbad hojayeinge.”
                ﴿

   

 } {﴾
Nuh (as) ki tauba. (11:47): “Kehne lage, Mere palanhar, main Teri
hi panah chahata hun k Tujh se voh mangun jis ka mujhe ilm hi na
ho. Agar Tu mujhe na bakhshega aur Tu mujh par rahem na
farmayega, toh main toh kharabi walon mein hojaonga.”
{﴾
       ﴿
}
Musa (as) ki tauba. (7:143): “Teri zaat paak hai, Teri janab mein
tauba karta hun aur Tujh par eman lane walo main awaal hun.”
} ﴾          ﴿
{
Yunus (as) ki tauba. (21:87): “Aye Allah Tere siwa koyi mabud nahi
Tu pak hai beshak main zalimon mein hogaya.”
} {﴾
          ﴿
Dawud (as) ka sajda e tauba. (38:24): “Aur Hazrat dawud (as) samajh
gaye k Humne unhein azmaya hai phir toh apne Rabb se astaghfar karne
lage aur ajizi karte hue gir pade aur puri tarha ruju hogaye.”
} {﴾ 
               ﴿

Sulaiman (as) ki tauba. (38:35): “Kaha, Aye mere Allah! Mujhe bakhsh
de aur mujhe aisa mulk ata farma jo mere siwa kisi (shakhs) k layeq na
ho, Tu bada hi dene wala hai.”
5. Dua Ka Bayan
} {﴾             ﴿
(25:77): “Kah dijiye! Agar tumhari dua (ilteja) na hoti toh mera Rabb
tumhare mutalaq parwah na karta. Tum toh jhutla chuke, ab anqarib iski
saza tumhein chimatjane wali hogi.”

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          ‫﴿و‬

﴾   

Allah ka hukum dua mango main qubul karunga. (40:60): “Aur
tumhare Rabb ka farman sarzad ho chuka hai k mujh se dua karte raho,
Main tumhari duaon ko qubul karunga. Yaqin mano k jo log Meri ibadat
se khud sari karte hain voh abhi abhi zalil ho khar jahannum mein
pohanch jayeinge.”
 
 
    
 
    
  
 
   
       
   
      ﴿
   

﴾ 
 
 
                   
    
   
Allah bande ki pukar ko qubul karta hai bashart yeh k bande Allah
ki baat manlein.(2:186): “Jab Mere bande Mere bare main apse
sawal karein to Aap kehdein k Main bahut hi qarib hun har pukarne
wale ki pukar ko jab bhi voh mujhe pukare qubul karta hun. Is liye
logo ko bhi chahiyye k voh bhi Meri baat maan liya karein aur Mujh
par eman rakhein. Yehi un ki bhalai ka bayes hai.”
} {﴾
         ﴿
Allah neko karon ki dua sunta hai. (42:26): “Aur eman walon aur neko
kar logon ki sunta hai. Unhein apne fazal se aur ziyada ata farmata hai.”
6. Ibrahim (As) Aur Ismainl (As) Ki Hukum Bardari.
} {﴾           ﴿
Hazrat Ibrahim (as) ki farmabardari ka bayan. (2:131): “Jab kabhi
bhi unhein un k Rabb ne kaha, maan le, unho ne kaha, main ne
Rabbul alamin ki manli.”
             ﴿6.ii
} {﴾         
Ismail (as) ka zikr, ausaf-e-hamida ka bayan. (19:54, 55): “Is kitab
main Ismail ka waqiya bhi bayan kar. Voh bada hi wade ka sachcha tha
aur tha bhi Rasul aur nabi. (54) Voh apne ghar walo ko baraber namaz
aur zakat ka hukum deta rehta tha aur tha bhi apne Parwardigar ki bargha
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7. Dua Ki Ayaat
} {﴾            ﴿
Duniya aur akhirat ki kamiyabi k liye dua. (2:201): “Aur Baaz log
voh bhi hain jo kehte hain, Aye hamare Rabb hamein duniya main neki
de aur akhirat main bhi bhalai ata farma aur azab jahanum se najat de.”
7.1 Nuh (as) ki dua:
} {﴾         ﴿
(i) (23:29): “Aye mere Rabb! Mujhe ba barkat utarna utar aur Tu hi
behtar utarne wala hai.”
           ﴿

   

} {﴾
(ii) (71:28): “Aye mere Parwardigar! Tu mujhe aur mere maa baap ko aur
jo bhi emandar ho kar mere ghar main ayein aur tamam momin mardon
aur kul emandar aurton ko bakhsh de aur kafiron ko siwa halakat k aur
kuch na badha.”[Ye badduva qayamat tak ane wale zalimon k liye hai jis
tarha mazkur tamam momin mardo aur tamam momin aurto k liye hai.]
7.2 Ibrahim (As) Ki Duaein
              ﴿
} {﴾          
(14:39-41): “Kuch shak nahi k mera palne wala Allah duaon ka sunne
wala hai. (39) Aye mere palne wale! Mujhe namaz ka paband rakh aur
mere aulad se bhi. Aye hamare Rabb meri dua qubul farma. (40) Aye
mere Parwardigar! Mujhe bakhsh de, mere maa baap ko bhi bakhash aur
digar mominon ko bhi bakhsh jis din hisab hone lage.”
             ﴿
             
  } {﴾
(26:78-82): “Jis ne mujhe paida kiya hai aur wahi meri rehbari farmata
hai. (78) Wahi mujhe khilata pilata hai. (79) Aur jab main bimar pad jao
toh shifa ata farmata hai (80) aur wahi mujhe mar dalega phir zinda

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kardega (81) aur jisse mujhe umeed bandhi hui hai k voh roz-e-jaza main
mere gunaho ko bakhsh dega.”
} {﴾       ﴿
(26:83): “Aye Allah mujhe hikamat ata farma aur mujhe nek logon mein
milade.”
“} {﴾        ﴿
(26:84): “Aur mera zikr-e-khair pichle logo main bhi baqi rakh.”
{﴾
     ﴿
}
(26:85): “Aur mujhe nemato wali Jannat k warison main se banade.”
{﴾
      ﴿
}
vi. (37:100): “Aye mere Rabb! Mujhe nek bakht aulad ata farma.”(Aulad
hone ki dua.)
            ﴿

} { ﴾          

(60:4, 5): “Aye hamare Parwardigar! Tujh hi per hamne bharosa kiya aur
Teri hi taraf lautna hai (4) Khudaya! Tu hamein kafiron ka zabardast aur
takht e mashq na bana aur aye hamare palne wale hamari khatao ko baksh
de, beshak Tu hi Ghalib, hikmaton wala hai.”
7.3 Ayub (As) Ki Dua
} {﴾        ﴿
(21:83): “Usne apne Parwardigar ko pukara k mujhe yeh bimari lag gai
hai aur Tu tamam rahem karne walon mein se zyada rahem karne wala
hai.”
7.4 Yaqub (As) Ki Dua
} {﴾        ﴿
(12:64): Pus Allah hi behtarin muhafiz hai aur hai bhi voh sab
meherbano se bada meherban hai.
7.5 Yusuf (as) ki dua (shukr)
} {﴾             ﴿

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(12:100): “Mera Rabb jo chahe us k liye behtarin tadbir karne wala hai
aur hai bhi voh bahut ilm aur hikmat wala.”
            ﴿


} {﴾  
(12:101): “Aye asman o zamin k paida karne wale! Tu hi dunya aur
akhirat main mera wali aur karsaz hai Tu mujhe musalman maar aur neko
main milade.”
Yusuf (As) Se Yusuf (As) K Bhaiyon Ki Ilteja:
} {﴾    ﴿
“ (12:88): “Allah Ta’ala khairat karne walo ko badla deta hai.
7.6 Kuffar Se Jang K Waqt Taaluth (As) Ki Dua
} {﴾          ﴿

(2:250): “Aye mere Parwardigar! Hamein sabr de sabit qadmi de aur

qaum kuffar par hamari madad farma.”
7.7 Sulaiman (As) Ki Dua
            ﴿

{﴾
      
}
(27:19): “Aye parwardigar! Tu mujhe taufiq de k main teri nemato ka
shukr baja lao jo tune mujh par enaam ki hai aur mere maa baap par aur
main aise nek aamal karta rahu jinse tu khush rahe mujhe apni rehmat se
nek bando main shamil karle.”
7.8 Musa (as) ki dua:
              ﴿

﴾  } {
(20:25-28): “Mere Parwardigar! Mera seena mere liye khol de (25) Aur
mere kaam ko mujh par asan karde. (26) Aur meri zaban ki girah bhi khol
de. (27) Ta k log meri baat achi tarha samajh sake
7.9 Firaon k jadugar eman lane k baad Allah se dua karte hain.
} {﴾        ﴿

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(7:126): “Aye hamare Parwardigar hum par sabar barsade aur hume
musalmani ki halat main utha.”
5.10.11 Mominon ki dua. (Allah ka hukum aisi dua karne ka)
                 ﴿

} {﴾ 
              
(3:8,9): Aye hamare Rabb! Hamein hidayat dene k baad hamare dil tedhe
na karde aur humein apne paas se rehmat ata farma. Yaqinan Tu hi badi
ata dene wala. Aye hamare Rabb! Tu yaqinan logo ko ek din jama karne
wala hai jis k aane main koyi shak nahi. Yaqinan Allah Ta’ala wade
khilafi nahi karta.”
7.11 Zakriya (as) ki duaein
{﴾
      ﴿
}
(19:4): “Aur lekin main kabhi bhi tujh se dua kar k mahrum nahi raha.”
{﴾
     ﴿
}
(19:5): Tu mujhe apne paas se waris ata farma.”
{﴾
          ﴿
}
(19:6): Jo mera bhi waris ho aur Yaqub (as) k khandan ka bhi janashin ho.
Aur mere Rabb! Tu use apna maqbul banda banale.” (Aulad hone k liye dua)
} {﴾        ﴿
(21:89): “Aye mere parwardigar! Mujhe tanha na chod, tu sab se behtar
waris hai.”
7.12 Ashabe Kahef Ki Dua
{﴾
           ﴿
}
(18:10): “Aye hamare parwardigar! Hame apne paas se rehmat ata farma
aur hamare kaam main hamare liye rah yabi ko asaan karde.”
7.13 Allah ka hukum Rasul Allah (saw) ko dua karne ka
} {﴾     ﴿
(20:114): “Mere Parwardigar mera ilm badhata reh.”
7.14 Walidain K Liye Dua
} {﴾       ﴿

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(17:24): “Aye mere Parwardigar un par waisa hi rahem kar jaisa unhone
mere bachpan main meri parvarish ki hai.”
7.15 Momino Ki Dua
} {﴾
           ﴿
(25:74): “Aye hamare Parwardigar! Tu hamein hamari biwiyon aur aulad
se ankhon ki thandak ata farma aur hamein parhezgaron ka peshva bana.”
} {﴾         ﴿
(23:109): “Aye hamare Parwardigar! Hum eman lachuke hain. Tu
hamein bakhashde aur hum par rahem farma Tu sab maherbano se zyada
maherban hai.”
7.16 : Mominon Ki Duaein. (zalim, kafir aur mufsid kamon se
mahfuz rehne k liye)
            ﴿

 
} {﴾
(10:85, 86):“ Hamara bharosa Allah hi par hai. Aye hamare Parwardigar
Tu hamein zalim logon k liye fitna na bana. Aur hamein apni rehmat se
us kafir qaum se nijat ata farma.” (Musa (as) ki quam ki dua.)
} {﴾      ﴿
(29:30): Lut (as) ki dua: “ Lut (as) ne kaha Aye mere Parwardigar (in)
mufsid logon k muqable mein mujhe nusrat inayat farma.”
{﴾
   ﴿
}
Mominon k liye kafi hai (15:95): “Tujh se jo log maskhara pan karte
hain un ki saza k liye Hum kafi hain.”
{﴾
      ﴿
}
(2:137): “Allah Ta’ala unse anqarib apki kifayat karega, Voh khub
sunne aur janne wala hai.”
8. Sab Kaam Allah Ta’ala Hi Ki Taraf Laut Te Hai
{﴾
      ﴿
}
Tumhare sab muamalat Allah hi ki taraf ruju hote hai. (42:53):
“Agah raho sab kaam Allah hi ki taraf laut te hain.”
} {﴾           ﴿

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(40:44): “Main apna muamala Allah k sapurd karta hun.Yaqinan Allah

Ta’ala bando ka nigran hai.”
9. Allah Ka Shukr Ada Karna
} { ﴾           
﴿
(14:7): “Aur jab tumhare Parwardigar ne agah kiya k agar shukr guzari
karoge toh mainn tumhe zyada dunga aur agar tum na shukri karoge toh
yaqinan mera azaab bahut sakht hai.”
             ﴿
} {﴾
           
Allah ka zikr bhi shukr guzari hai (29:45): Jo kitab apki taraf wahee ki
gai hai, use padhiye aur namaz qayam kare yaqinan namaz behayai aur
burai se rokti hai, beshak Allah ka zikr badi cheez hai jo kuch tum kar
rahe ho usse Allah khabardar hai.” [Behayayi aur burai se rokne mein Allah
ka zikr, iqamat e salat se bhi ziyada muasir hai. Is liye aadmi jab tak namaz mein
hota hai, burai se ruka rehta hai. Lekin baad main uski tasir kamzor hojati hai. Is
k bar akas har waqt Allah ka zikr is k liye har waqt burai main maney rehta hai.]

} { ﴾       ﴿

Allah k zikr se hi dilon ko itmenan hasil hota hai. (13:28): “Yaad
rakho Allah k zikr se hi dilon ko tassali hasil hoti hai.” [Ibadat, tilawat
Quran, nawafil aur dua-o-munajat hai ahle eman k dilo ki khurak hai ya us k
ahkam ki baja awari aur munhiyat se bachne ki ita’at karna jis k baghair ahle
eman-o-taqva beqarar rehte hai.]

             ﴿ iv

}20:130{﴾
   
Rabb ki tasbih se murad namaz hai. (20:130): “Aur apne Parwardigar
ki tasbih aur tarif bayan karta rahein, suraj nikalne se pehle aur us k
dubne se pehle, raat k mukhtalif waqton mein bhi aur din k hisson mein
bhi tasbhi karta reh, bahut mumkin hai k tu razi hojaye.”
﴾          ﴿ v
}4:103{
(4:130) “Yaqinan namaz toh mominon par mukharar waqton par farz hai.”
} {﴾       ﴿
(8:45) “Saabit qadam raho aur baksarat Allah ko yaad karo ta k tumhein

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kamyabi haasil ho.”

{﴾
      ﴿
}
Subah sham Allah Ta’ala ki tasbih padha karo. (30:17): “Pus Allah
Ta’ala ki tasbih padha karo jab k tum sham karo aur jab subha karo
tamam tarifon k leyaq asmanon zamin mein sirf wahi hai.”
               ﴿
﴾        
} {
Quran ki tilawat bhi Allah k Afzal zikr mein se hai. (76:29, 30):
“Yaqinan yeh toh ek nasihat hai pus jo chahe apne Rabb ki rah le-
le.(29) Aur tum na chahoge magar yeh k Allah Ta’ala hi chahe.
Be shak Allah Ta’ala ilm wala ba hikmat hai.”
}85:14-16{ ﴾             ﴿ ix
(85:14-16): “Voh bada bakhashne wala aur bahut mohabat karne wala
hai, Arsh ka malik azmat wala hai jo chahe use kar guzarne wala hai.”

            ﴿

﴾  

Aye eman walo! Tum Mohammed (saw) par khub durud o Salam
bhejte raho. (33:56): “Allah Ta’ala aur us k farishte us Nabi par rehmat
bhejte hai. Aye eman walo! Tum (bhi) un par durud bhejo aur khub salam
(bhi) bhejte raha karo.”
} {﴾          ﴿
Allah ki hidayat.(6:125): “Jiski hidayat ka irada Allah ka hota hai, us k
sino ko islam k liye khol deta hai.”
‘‘‫ص ُد ْؤَرَٔان لِ ِْْل ْس ََٔلِم‬ ِ
ُ ‫الله َّم نَٔ ِوْر قُلُ ْوبَٔنَٔا ِِب ِْْل ْْئَان َٔوا ْش َٔر ْح‬
ُ ’’
[Aye hamare Rabb hamare dilo ko imaan se munawar kar de aur hamare sino ko
islam k liye khol de Ameen Ya Rabbbul Alameen.]
10. Duaein
              ﴿

                 

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}   {﴾
       
(2:286): Allah Ta’ala kisi jaan ko uski taqat se zyada taklif nahi deta jo
neki vohh kare vohh us k liye aur jo burai vohh kare voh uspar hai, aye
hamare Rabb agar hum bhul gaye ho ya qata ki ho toh hame na
pakadna. Aye hamare Rabb! Hum par voh bojh na daal jo hum se pahle
logo par dala tha. Aye hamare Rabb! Hum par voh bojh na daal jiski
hamein taqat na ho aur hum se dar guzar farma aur hamein bakhsh de
aur hum par rahem kar. Tu hi hamara malik hai, hamein kafiron ki
qaum par ghalba ata farmaye.”
             ﴿
﴾          
} {
(60:4, 5): “ye hamare Parwardigar! Tujhi par humne bharosa kiya hai aur
Teri hi taraf ruju karte hain. Aur Teri hi taraf lautna hai. (4) Khudaya! Tu
hamein kafiron ka zairdast aur takhta e mashq na bana aur aye hamare
Palne wale! Hamari khataon ko bakhsh de. Beshak Tu hi Ghalib,
hikmaton wala hai.”
          ﴿

﴾     

(37:180-182):“Paak hai apka Rabb jo bahut badi izzat wala hai har us
cheez se jo mushrik bayan karte hai. Paighambaron par salam hai. Aur
sab tarha ki tarif Allah k liye hai jo sare jahan ka Rabb hai.”
11. Yeh Quran momino k liye sarasar shifa aur rehmat hai, pus
kya koyi nasihat hasil karne wala hai?
} { ﴾              ﴿
i (17:82): “Yeh Quran jo hum nazil kar rahe hai momino k liye toh
sarasar shifa aur rehmat hai haan zalimon ko bajuz nuqsan k aur
koyi ziyadati nahi hoti.”
﴾         ﴿
} {
ii (54:22): Beshak Humne Quran ko samajhne k liye aasan kardiya hai,
pus kya koyi nasihat hasil karne wala hai ???
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12. Al Lateef Publication And Charitable Foundation (Regd)

Is kitab ki talif ka maqsad naujawan talba jo degree ya professional degree
mukammal karne wale ho un k liye Islami talimaat aur Quran fehmi ko
asan banaya ja sake, aur yeh us waqt tak mumkin nahi jab tak k un ko asri
talim k saath saath kam az kam hafta wari ek ghanta ulma ki zere nigrani
talimo tarbiyat ka intezam (har aqliyati idare main) kiya jaye, jis k liye
maliyat ki zarurat hai, is ahem maqsad k peshe nazar is kitab se hone wale
munafe se bafazl eTa’ala trust ka qiyam amal main laya gaya hai.
‘Quran e Majeed islah e muashira ki kaleed’ na sirf Urdu zaban mein
manzar e aam par ayi hai bal k Roman English (Talafuz urdu aur rasmul
khat English), Telugu, Hindi aur English zaban mein bhi market mein
agayi hai. Alhamdulillah. Muallifa ka ain maqsad hai k bila lehaz mazhab
o millat Qurani talimaat ko aam kiya jaye aur Islam ki talimaat janne ke
liye zaban (language) rukawat na bane. Aur hamre naujavano ko yeh
kitab nisab k taur par istemal kar k Islami talim o tarbiyat di jaye k voh in
shaa Allah mustaqibil qarib mein jab muashira ki ekai (khandan) ki
bunyad rakhein toh buniyad (nikah) hi Islami tarz-o-tariqepar rakhein. Ta
k yeh kitab mukamal taur par Quran fehmi ki haqiqatan kaleed ban jaye.
ameen suma ameen.
Is ahem kaaz k liye tamam ahel khair hazrat se guzarish ki jati hai k voh
har college mein sawab e jaria k taur par kitabein taqsim karein. Isliye k
talba kitabein kharidne k mauqif mein nahi rehte. Isse fariqain ko fayeda
hoga. yani talba ko kitabe mayasar hogi aur foundation ko talim faraham
karne main taqviyat hasil hogi aur iska dohra bal k kayee guna ajar ap k
hisab (nam e amaal) mein likha jayega.
Is kitab ko apne liye, dost o ahbab k alawa deeni o asri school aur
colleges k libraries mein rakhne ka intezam kar k sawab darain hasil
karein, naiz shadi biahh o degar taqarib mein is kitab ko bataur e tohfa
bhi diya jasakta hai.
Trust k aghrazo maqasid
(1) Tamam aqliyati degree , professional aur vocational colleges mein
‘hafta wari classes’ ka nisab “Quran majeed islah muashira ki kalid” se
murtib kiya jayega. In classes ko munaqid karne k liye sanad yafta ulama
ki khidmaat hasil ki jayeingi. (Inshallah Ta’ala) cheh maah ka ye program
har saal August September se shuru kar k January February mein salana
imtehan liya jayega. Imtiyazi nishanat hasil karne walon ko In shaa Allah
inaamaat diye jayenge.

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(2) Web site par is kitab ki isha’at ki jayegi k ‘(I.T) companies’ k muslim o
ghair muslim naujawanon ko bhi Islam se agahi ho aur ye sabut faraham kiya
ja sake k Islam mein dahshat gardi ki kahin bhi gunjayesh nahi hai.
(3) Aima e masajid ko jo aala talim hasil karne ki justaju rakhte hon un k
liye mahana wazifa dekar aala talim k husul mein madad di jayegi. Jis se
har juma k khutba muasar hoga aur samayin ko Islami talimat par amal
paira hone mein madad milegi. Farigh ut tehsil aaima dunya k kisi goshe
main bhi jaye toh Qurani talimaat k nur se fiza ko pur nur banayenge.

Mukhlis
Dr Syeda LateefUnnisa Begum
Bani o muatamad
Al Lateef publication and charitable foundation (regd)

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