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Gender issues
Probleme legate de gen

ICASSI 2004
UNIVERSITY COLLEGE CORK
CORK, IRELAND

COURSE LEADER:

MARION BALLA , M.ED., M.S.W., R.S.W.

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CARACTERISTICI

INSTRUCTIUNI: utilizati aceste caracteristici pentru a va descrie. Indicati pe o scala de

la 1 la 7 (unde 1 este cel mai putin adevarat iar 7 este cel mai bun potrivit raspuns) cat de
adevarate sunt pentru dvs aceste caracteristici:

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 1 2 3 4 5 6 7
Actionati ca un Afectuoasa
lider
Agresiva Vesela
Ambitioasa Copilaroasa
Analitica Miloasa
(intelegatoare)
Afirmativa Nu folosesti
(bataioasa) cuvinte grele ,
jignitoare
Atletica Gata sa impaci, sa
alini sentimente
ranite
Competitiva Feminina
Va aparati Usor de flatat
propriile credinte
si valori
Dominanta Blanda, amabila
Puternica Naiva, usor de
tras pe sfoara
Aveti abilitati de Iubesti copii
conducere
Independenta Loiala
Individualista Sensibila la
nevoile celorlalti
Iei decizii cu Timida, rusinoasa
usurinta
Masculina Vorba moale
Bazata pe sine Empatica
Autosuficienta Tandra
Personalitate Intelegatoare
puternica
Saritor la nevoie Calda, generoasa
Iti asumi riscuri Docila
Incercuiti notele maxime si minime din ambele tabele.

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Ce calitati ati descoperit la femeile din copilaria dvs:
Mama
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Bunica / bunici
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Matusa/ matusi
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Invatatoare_______________________________________________________________
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Sora / surori
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Prietena/
prietene_________________________________________________________________
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Alte femei semnificative din copilaria

dvs_____________________________________________________________________
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Alege calitatile care ti se potrivesc si incercuieste-le pe cele care te caracterizeaza.

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Ce calitati ati descoperit la barbatii din copilaria dvs:
Tata
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Bunicul/bunicii
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Unchiul/unchii____________________________________________________________
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Invatatorul/ profesorii
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Fratele/ fratii
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Prieten/prieteni___________________________________________________________
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Alti barbati semnificativi din copilaria

dvs_____________________________________________________________________
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Alege calitatile care ti se potrivesc si incercuieste-le pe cele care te caracterizeaza.

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Ce tip de mesaje ati primit despre femeile din copilaria dvs
(primele patru mesaje sunt generalizari facute pe baza
mesajelor primite in copilarie) :
Fii
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Fa
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Nu
fii______________________________________________________________________
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Nu_____________________________________________________________________
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Mesaje de la mama
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Mesaje de la
bunica__________________________________________________________________
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Mesaje de la
invatatoare_______________________________________________________________
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Mesaje de la
tata_____________________________________________________________________
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Mesaje de la
bunicul__________________________________________________________________
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Mesaje de la sora ta/ surorile

tale_____________________________________________________________________
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Mesaje de la fratele tau/ fratii tai

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Ce tip de mesaje ati primit despre barbatii din copilaria dvs

(primele patru mesaje sunt generalizari facute pe baza
mesajelor primite in copilarie) :
Fii
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Fa
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Nu
fii______________________________________________________________________
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Nu_____________________________________________________________________
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Mesaje de la mama
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Mesaje de la
bunica__________________________________________________________________
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Mesaje de la
invatatoare_______________________________________________________________
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Mesaje de la
tata_____________________________________________________________________
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Mesaje de la
bunicul__________________________________________________________________
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--

Mesaje de la sora ta/ surorile

tale_____________________________________________________________________
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Mesaje de la fratele tau/ fratii tai

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PATTERN FAMILIAL

Mesajele care mi-au fost transmise de catre mama despre:

a. bani (cine gestioneaza
banii?)__________________________________________________________________
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b.sex___________________________________________________________________
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c.afectiune_______________________________________________________________
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d.dragoste_______________________________________________________________
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e.luarea deciziilor (cine le ia)

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f. rezolvarea de
probleme________________________________________________________________
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g.
copii____________________________________________________________________
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h.
prietenie_________________________________________________________________
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i.
casatorie________________________________________________________________
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j.
religie__________________________________________________________________
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k.
munca__________________________________________________________________
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l. timp liber
(recreiere)_______________________________________________________________
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m.
sanatate_________________________________________________________________
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PATTERN FAMILIAL

Mesajele care mi-au fost transmise de catre tata despre:

a. bani (cine gestioneaza
banii?)__________________________________________________________________
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b.sex___________________________________________________________________
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c.afectiune_______________________________________________________________
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d.dragoste_______________________________________________________________
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e.luarea deciziilor (cine le ia)

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f. rezolvarea de
probleme________________________________________________________________
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g.
copii____________________________________________________________________
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h.
prietenie_________________________________________________________________
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i.
casatorie________________________________________________________________
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j.
religie__________________________________________________________________
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k.
munca__________________________________________________________________
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l. timp liber
(recreiere)_______________________________________________________________
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m.
sanatate_________________________________________________________________
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ABILITATI PENTRU CONSTRUIREA SI INTARIREA
RELATIILOR INTIME

1. Descrieti calitatile pe care le avea tatal dvs cand erati copil.

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2. Descrieti calitatile pe care le avea mama dvs cand erati copil

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3. Semeni mai mult cu tatal tau sau cu mama ta? In ce fel?

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4. Cine lua deciziile in casa? In ce fel?

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5. Parintii se certau in fata dvs ?Despre ce?

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6. Cum se terminau certurile?

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7. Cum isi aratau afectiunea unul altuia?

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8. De partea cui erai de obicei in evaluarea deciziilor sau in timpul certurilor?

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9. Care erau valorile familiei ce erau prezente in casa dvs pe vremea cand erati copil?
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10. Faceti o lista a valorilor proprii din momentul actual?

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11. Faceti o lista a valorilor partenerului dvs sau ale unei persoane importante din viata
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 Exercitiu cu povestea propriei nasteri

Ce stii sau ce presupui despre momentul nasterea ta , de exemplu ora cand te-ai nascut
sau daca te-ai nascut ziua sau noaptea, cine era prezent, travaliu, numele tau ( motivul
pentru care a fost ales), asteptari de la tine, reactiile fratilor, bunicilor, parintilor ?
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Ai primit vreun mesaj despre tine ca nou nascut?
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Vezi vreo legatura intre mesajele pe care le-ai primit /presupus despre nasterea ta/ viata
ta ca nou nascut si viata ta din prezent ?
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Cum interfereaza povestea nasterii dvs cu viata din prezent ?

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Ce mesaje despre gen sunt prezente in povestea nasterii dvs ?

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 UNIND TRECUTUL/PREZENTUL/VIITORUL
EXERCITIU
A fost odata ca niciodata o fetita/un baietel
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si cand a crescut
ea/el____________________________________________________________________
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iar astazi ea/el isi doreste

sa______________________________________________________________________
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iar maine ea/el spera sa

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